jerking,porn and confusion

Former Member

im not so much confused as worried. and i have a feeling that this thread aint gona go down too well. but hey who cares?! this mite sound so stupid but i'm not sure of my sexuality. the thing is i wanna be straight, but im scared that im not gona end up that way. i have girlfriends, in fact ive had quite a few serious relationships. but i find myself jerking off to the sight of guys. now i know wot ur thinking- isnt it obvious, ur bi.- but i duno. have ne of u guys had the same sorta problem?

Former Member

For a start you cant force yourself into a certain sexuality. Secondly it doesnt necessarily mean your bi...i have nothing else to add cos im a clueless mooch!

Former Member

Well, look at it this way, you might wank over a pic of a guy or you might wank over a pic of a female porn star. It's highly unlikely that you'll be having a relationship with either of them, so what does it matter?

Former Member

well dont worry, think of it this way if you get turned on watchign a porno movie with guys and girls, does that make yuo Bi cause there just happenes to be some guys cock on screen, no it dont, but it's still going to happen

just chill, if you likethe look of a guy so what just means you have more things that can turn you on

Former Member

if you get horny when you see a pic of a guy, then thats that, getting turned on by a cock is v. different from wanting to have sex with a guy or wanting a relationship with one.

ive considered the whole "gay/straight" thing, and i kinda realised that i dont find guys attractive, so no luck there

theres no reason why u shuddent do what u want with whatever gender you want the only problem you'll have is with the dickheads who judge you

Former Member

I understand where you are coming from.

Don't try and put yourself into a labelled box just yet. If guys cocks turn you on at the moment, that's cool. But you may find it is just a phase you're going through. I'm not sure how old you are but many people go through a period where they feel confused but things sort themselves out in your head over time. Human sexuality is a very wide and complex thing so it's easy to be confused ... just enjoy the varied ride until you are certain what it is that rocks your boat before trying to define your sexuality.

Former Member

Human sexuality is complex, and it never fits neatly into one of the labelled boxes. Everyone is bi really, to a greater or lesser extent. But the question you have to consider is:

Do you find men attractive, or just their dicks? Would you want to sleep with a guy, go out with a guy or is that solely for women? If you want to sleep with and date both men and women you may well be bi, but if one takes more precedence you will probably be either gay or straight.

But even then its not clear cut. Whats the hurry, at the oldest Id say youd be 15. Youve got a whole lifetime to find out:)

the_Paranoid_bunny

You should listen to the song "Gay/Not Gay" by King Missile.. it has all the answers

But seriously, what the others has said is pretty good advice. Getting turned on by the sight of a man and wanting to have a relationship with him are two completely different things. Decide which one you want and there's your answer.

Former Member

i had a m8 who knew he was bi from the age of about 13, and stayed that way until last year, when he said it was just a phase... and then a few months ago.... he said he was 100% gay..

stuff happens

do what makes you happy, you dont have to "come out" to anyone, you dont have to do anything/anyone that your not 100% sure of doing