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Wanking

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
I've just found out that my boyfriend wanks over my friends (why the fuck he told me i do not know) and i was wondering you boys in relationships do you wank over your girlfriends friends??

I know he wanks over porn and shit, but that doesnt matter, its there for a reason, to turn blokes on, but my friends are just normal people that ive introduced him to and that he hangs around with and then he goes home and wanks over them..it has really hurt and upset me, but do all blokes do it?

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ermm. i dont really know wetha other ladz do it coz its a lad question really, but i would be hurt if my bf told me he wanked over my m8s, thats just fuckin sly, why did he tell you newayz!?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well erm I'm a boy, and although some of my girlfriends friends are, heh, incredibly attractive, I wouldn't exactly wank over them... I might wank over someone like them I guess though, hehe :p - but not actualy them specifically... I mean, well, they're my Girlfriends mates, and I really just wouldn't want to be doing that. Just not nice.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    its my fault really i just said to him 'do you only wank over me or do you wank over other people too?' and he just said yeh ive wanked over your friends too..
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    also...you lads, do you have to find the person attractive and fancy them, or can you wank over someone you dont fancy and dont find attractive or do you need both or one or the other?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I suppose the fact he wanks over your friends, whilst possibly being a bit weird, wouldn't really be anything to worry about.

    However, the fact that he actualy told you... disturbing.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Wanking over real life people you actualy know ya mean? I guess then I'd have to both find them attractive and fancy them. And by saying fancy I mean seriously like them, the only person at the moment being my Girlfriend.

    Doesn't stop you having the odd fantasy over various celebrities you don't actualy know mind, hehe. :naughty:
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    thats dodgy, i know if my bf wanked over my m8s id kill im probz! oh rite its not really ur fault, he could ave just said just mags n stuff..but telling u?!? :confused: hmmm
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    well it could be worse...he could be literally wanking over your friends....or wanking over his friends. i wouldnt worry at least hes still with you, and at least uve got a honest relationship, u should feel lucky that uve got a boyfriend who feels that he can talk easily and honestly to his girlfriend, that must show some kind of commitment.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yeh but he cant understand how much he's hurt me and he gets pissed off if i bring it up or ask him who he's wanked over. To me its like mental cheating, hes imagining my friends naked and having sex with them, yeh fair enough famous people, porn stars, but these are my friends and i dont trust his feelings now towards the girls we are friends with.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yeah i understand id be gutted n all, tell him how upset u are
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I really wouldn't worry about him cheating on you with them hun. Afterall, it really is just a fantasy I guess... but I agree it is a pretty sick thing to do, and he was being very insensitive by telling you :(

    Really try to make him understand how much he's hurt you, and at least make him keep stuff like that to himself. :)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Re: Wanking
    Originally posted by *smudge*
    No, Not all blokes do it im a bloke and i dont but i know some people that do and some that dont but then again my ex accused me of it.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    :yes: i agree with every thing shukes just said,
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    People usually do :p

    But after I've said that Russian snipers tend to approach me from a distance and I notice bullets whizzing past my head every so often :(
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    That was a very insensistive thing to say, even if he does he doesnt tell you! What was he thinking off, did he honestly think you wouldnt mind!:mad: .

    Tell him how you feel.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think that people should keep it to themselves what they wank over. It's a really dangerous subject to discuss with your gf/bf, and I think that "Don't ask don't tell" is the best policy.

    By the way, I recommend reading Dan Savage's sex advice - he's a hilarious brutal-realist columnist, gay for that matter but talks about everything, and he's covered stuff like this. It can give you a good laugh if nothing else. I know it's syndicated by New York's Village Voice:

    http://www.villagevoice.com/hotspot/
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by *smudge*
    also...you lads, do you have to find the person attractive and fancy them, or can you wank over someone you dont fancy and dont find attractive or do you need both or one or the other?

    No (Me personally) I don't need to fancy someone to wank over them.

    I just use a fantasy I have and add the girl to it (That was before I got my hands on porn tho) but I guess your bf use's one of your mates to fulfil his fantasy. I doubt it means he likes you any less

    ask him what your friend were doing to him in his wank (Er. I mean he might have something that turns him on that you think would be nasty so he can't use you to do?) -does that make sense?:confused: (It didn't to me)

    Has your bf got porn as well?,I wouldn't wank over one of my gf mates.(Unless I run out of porn, and I couldn't use my gf in this fantasy) ;):p

    If in doubt buy him so porn or ask him to tell you why he used your friend and not you!

    If you think its a big deal (I don't think it is)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i personally dont wank, and on the odd occasion i try i dont have a fantasy to go with it so i guess i just dont understand...yeh he's got loads of porn mags and shit i just dont see why it was over my friends...why did he have to wank over them?? He's telling me now that yes he knows he's wanked over other people but he cant remember who or what they are about...its not so much the wanking though thats hurt me its his reaction to me being hurt about it...he just keeps going shhhhhp ever time i start talking about it and he's really hurting me and he cant understand that...either that or he doesnt care that he's hurting me
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Harmless

    Has your bf got porn as well?,I wouldn't wank over one of my gf mates.(Unless I run out of porn, and I couldn't use my gf in this fantasy) ;):p

    Hehe i'll warn them! :p
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by LacyMay2k


    Hehe i'll warn them! :p


    We can't flirt on here sexy, It's upsetting everyone!

    We'll have to use Pm's
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Harmless



    We can't flirt on here sexy, It's upsetting everyone!

    We'll have to use Pm's

    How is that flirting? :confused:

    Fine guess i'll just chat to you on MSN...:p
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Harmless



    We can't flirt on here sexy, It's upsetting everyone!

    We'll have to use Pm's

    Well thank God for that! :p
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by LacyMay2k


    How is that flirting? :confused:

    Fine guess i'll just chat to you on MSN...:p

    Its not, but some members may deem it as flirting so we better stop, at this rate we should just stop talking to each other!:p
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    *mutters something about the sexually repressed*
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by *smudge*
    yeh but he cant understand how much he's hurt me and he gets pissed off if i bring it up or ask him who he's wanked over. To me its like mental cheating, hes imagining my friends naked and having sex with them, yeh fair enough famous people, porn stars, but these are my friends and i dont trust his feelings now towards the girls we are friends with.

    heh! The world isn't all sugar and spice and all things nice. If you didn't want the truth then why ask the question? Was you running out of things to say so decided to ask a petty question that he took seriously and replied with 100% honesty? That'll learn ya.

    Personally I haven't made a habit of masturbating about a girlfriends mates. I did date one girl though and while having sex with her I realised there was no way in hell that I was going to cum. I managed it in the end but only by imagining fucking her best mate. As I cum she whispered to me (in the fantasy) "Let this be our secret". I think i told the story on here before.

    So things could be worse, your boyf could be doing things like I was doing back then.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i asked the question cos i did want to know the truthh, and im glad he was honest with me about it..its his lack of sensitivity now that i know, and the fact he's just blanking me every time i start talking about it...i just dont understand wanking, to him it might be nothing but to me it is something and him not talking about it makes it worse cos im just wondering about things.
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