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And now the g/f dumps me
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YAY, go me, ive now been dumped by my gf of ten months, yeah sure we've had out ups and downs and minor splits, but shes done it fucking again, after telling me less than 24 hours ago that she loved me wanted to always be with me and gave me a fucking card saying shes sorry shes hurt me in the past.
Here excuses, wait a second, its a good one, 'im too good' How the fuck can i be too good, all you girls at just hypocrits. You want Mr perfect to come along, and when he does, you want some rude boy twat named shabba cool D who'll treat you badly.
What is it, have i done something majorly wrong which means everyone i love doesnt love me and drops me? If there was such a thing as god, which their isnt, he'd be the drunk, hung over one pointing and laughing for his own enjoyment.
Having your best friend of 6 years tell you where to go and then a g/f is too much for me, they were/are the only people who loved me, now no one does. I just want to kill myself, if i wasnt too damn scared then i would, but i cant, cant even do that right it seems.
Just want to be loved, but im one of them people others can compare themselves to and feel so lucky and loved and wanted and go, 'boy im glad i aint him'...
I only ask to be loved...nothing else, yet you have these evil child killers and people who treat other people like the bubble gum on their shoes getting all the people wanting to be with them. Ive only ever wanted one thing in life and i still do only want that one thing in life, for one sole person to love me, to need me to want me, and to make me feel the same way back, to love them, to need them to want them...
But now i have nothing and no one, not even my existing friends really care about my happyness, to busy being down the pub getting drunk with their blokes or g/f's, while my best friend in the whole wide world, who was ALWAYS there for me and i told everything to and always helped me...isnt even here to help.
Here excuses, wait a second, its a good one, 'im too good' How the fuck can i be too good, all you girls at just hypocrits. You want Mr perfect to come along, and when he does, you want some rude boy twat named shabba cool D who'll treat you badly.
What is it, have i done something majorly wrong which means everyone i love doesnt love me and drops me? If there was such a thing as god, which their isnt, he'd be the drunk, hung over one pointing and laughing for his own enjoyment.
Having your best friend of 6 years tell you where to go and then a g/f is too much for me, they were/are the only people who loved me, now no one does. I just want to kill myself, if i wasnt too damn scared then i would, but i cant, cant even do that right it seems.
Just want to be loved, but im one of them people others can compare themselves to and feel so lucky and loved and wanted and go, 'boy im glad i aint him'...
I only ask to be loved...nothing else, yet you have these evil child killers and people who treat other people like the bubble gum on their shoes getting all the people wanting to be with them. Ive only ever wanted one thing in life and i still do only want that one thing in life, for one sole person to love me, to need me to want me, and to make me feel the same way back, to love them, to need them to want them...
But now i have nothing and no one, not even my existing friends really care about my happyness, to busy being down the pub getting drunk with their blokes or g/f's, while my best friend in the whole wide world, who was ALWAYS there for me and i told everything to and always helped me...isnt even here to help.
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You're better than them, comfort yourself with that thought. I don't know what your situation is (work/uni or whatever) but you need a distraction - short break somewhere? Get yourself away from this hurt...
I've contemplated suicide many times in the past, and around a year ago I did indeed try to take my own life It was down to a combination of my best friend ignoring me and deciding she hated me, severe problems at home, and my girlfriend leaving me. (admitedly we weren't that serious but coupled with everything else it was a real blow to my confidence, amongst other things)
Anyway, contemplating taking your own life - obviously it's not a very happy situation to get yourself into mate. Never seriously think about killing yourself, it achieves nothing and the pain you'll experience before you actually attempt it is just too much.
You don't deserve the shit you're going through, and I'm sure things will get better. They did for me and I'm happier than I've ever been at the moment. Admitedly I'm quite a bit younger than you and lead very different lives, but that doesn't mean things won't improve for you too mate
I just hope you can get through it all without getting too depressed. You seem like a great person and you really shouldn't have to go through this. You can come through this mate, I know you can and you will.
Just don't try anything stupid, eh?
like i said im too scared to do it, so wont, i'll probably just end up more wreckless in not watching roads when i cross etc.
How old you then, im only 19...you cant be that much younger. Thanxs to the above posts who replyed though
I assure you though, my suicidal actions weren't just the stereotypical angst ridden teen hormones playing up, I had very, very serious problems at home with an unloving family and abusive father, which as I said, coupled with the falling out with my best friend and loss of girlfriend just drove me other the edge.
Luckily things are ok now and I'm sure things will be for you too mate.
Look are you sure you don't say or do something stupid to the girls to make them dump you??
If not, I can only say why not try the old "If you can't beat em, join em" routine. You think girls like and want wankers, cunts & Rude boys, Become one and see how far you get.
Or why let her give up on you! Chase her a bit and try and win her back (Worth a try maybe)
My mate has got a really scummy and low-down shit way of keeping his gf, whenever she dumped him he would start to cry and say "you can't leave me I need you and I wont know what to do without you". and he said it work all the time and there still together now!
Why the fuck he told me I wont know but women seem to fall for that stuff. So if you love her enough and your willing to contemplated committing suicide over her(Or life)?(I'm not sure if you really meant it or just saying it at the time ) then you could try something like that.
If not I'm sure you will move on and find a new girl, just don't go looking for faults in yourself or the relationship and don't keep going on about wanting to be loved. You are 19 and have lots of time for love, just try and go out and enjoy life.
Good luck and don't kill yourself yet, wait till you have tasted love. Its well worth it!:)
Before when we first split up i didnt really talk to her and let her run after me, see im good at that, but once i have them back, i fuck it up and tell them all the time i like them, i just cant do the whole not bothered thing for some reason.
I told her if she messes it up its the last chance she'll have, and it is. Shes lied to me enough times, especially with the whole giving me a card saying shes sorry for hurting me before and then today saying she dont want me.
Ive never got the whole girls telling me im too perfect for making them feel imperfect as ive always made them feel as if they are special to me, cos they always are...
It'd have been ok if i had my best friend here, to love me and be here, but as she aint, i cant handel it, i need someone here now to make me feel better and wanted, just like on tv where all the friends come round and cheer the person up...except no one cares enough about me to do that.
When i say i want to be loved, i want to be wanted, to feel im here for a reason, to be wanted for myself, not for a flash car or money or something else. Thats what i mean by love.
i went through the same sort of things a few months back when i broke up with my bf
it's not nice but, it does get easier after time.
and i won't make out i've got more experience cos i ain't. i'm the same age as you but i can still only try and help
good luck