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Can girls please be honest FFS!!!! I feel shite!!

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Grrrrr... fuck fuck fuck...

Sorry, last nights story for you and you'll see why I'm so ticked off, I had the afternoon off after my course and decided to go drinking and to socialise with the natives, after walking around from bar-to-bar and drinking on the Island I was getting bored (and pissed) and decided to walk up towards the bus stop and that, upon getting there this girl (well figured, club dressed, looking approx 17-21yrs old) who I'd seen earlier drinking (and pissed) says hi and asks how I am etc. me replying that I'm bored and pissed and can't find anything to do, so we both decided to use each others company and went for a walk down the beach, we decided to chill out and we walked to a secluded spot and led down watching the stars (it was about 10pm) and after about 5 minutes or so she commented that I 'smelt nice' and leaned over and kissed me and well... you get the picture, we ended up sleeping together there and then, using protection I'll add...

About 3/4 later we decided to walk back up the beach and get a cab home, her to hers, me to mine and then she pretty much slammed my night completely...

She told me she was 14!!!!!!!!!! FUCK!! The same girl who looked my age if not older, came on to me, was drinking in the clubs better dressed than the others and honestly the whole time seemed to know what she was doing while we were making out...

FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK... <IMG alt="image" SRC="eek.gif" border="0"> I paied for her taxi home with mine, it was just a 'we're bored thing' and so we made something to do, no ties type... but for fuck sake (excuse the swearing) I wish people would tell me without lying first.. and she was drinking..

Jesus, its just so wrong, I feel terrible... <IMG alt="image" SRC="frown.gif" border="0"> <IMG alt="image" SRC="mad.gif" border="0"> <IMG alt="image" SRC="frown.gif" border="0">

Comments

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hi i think you shouldnt worry about the situation too much oviously the girl knew what she was doing and its not like she gave you any indication that she was 14. hope that helps xxx <IMG alt="image" SRC="smile.gif" border="0">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Ack, dont worry, I doubt shell go off and tell the bizzies that youve slept with an underage girl. And if she does just say she told you she was 17, she was pissed so its not your fault.

    You feel sick, but dont...you thought she was 17, she wasnt, but she sure as hell acted like she was. And I doubt it was her first time, so dont get panicked. Just put it down to experience.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Man thats shitty!! I dont really know what to say but the only thing is just tell her why did she not tell you her age! or did you ask her?? well I think if you did not ask her then its much ur fault as hers! I dont know what to do In them situations It happened me once and I just looked at it as a bad experience do the same just live a little she look ur age thats the main thing!! hope I helped!! <IMG alt="image" SRC="wink.gif" border="0"> <IMG alt="image" SRC="wink.gif" border="0"> <IMG alt="image" SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0"> <IMG alt="image" SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Don't worry about it...it wasn't your fault. You were both drunk, she looked older...it happens all the time.

    My m8 met this girl about 6 months ago, he'd just turned 17 and she told him she was 16. He was drunk and they ended up sleeping together. Then about a month later he found out it was her birthday, her 13th birthday! He nearly died when he was told but it was her that came onto him.

    I can guess how it must feel, seeing a 17 year old bloke, my best friend nearly crying tells me that, but it's happened, there was nothing you could do about it and there's nothing you can do about it now.

    Don't fret, pet <IMG alt="image" SRC="smile.gif" border="0">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I know it must be easy for us to say don't worry but you shouldn't.
    Obviously she's not worried so why should you. Just think of it as a drunken act and try to forget about it(easier said than done I know).
    Sorry if I didn't help
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hey man take it easy...it is not the end of the world!!!! she must have had alot of experience to get you thinking that she was (17-21 yrs). it is not like you were the first one..chill and be cool!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Just confirming what everyone else has said...don't feel too ick about it, it's not worth the hassle. YOU didn't do owt wrong. She led you on, pretended to be someone she was etc etc. Her loss, really.

    Just put it down to experience, and learn from it. <IMG alt="image" SRC="smile.gif" border="0">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Yeah man, forget about it. It was an honest mistake that any one of us would probably make if we were in your shoes. Haven't you seen Trainspotting?

    Buck up matey peeps, look forward to the future <IMG alt="image" SRC="smile.gif" border="0">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ...and from now on you'll know to ask their age first shag later!!!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    1)she must have been a right slapper (and did she not seem a little mentally immature for her age? or maybe i just dont know much about 14yr olds)

    2)ask for i.d. next time before u shag them. they might tell you to piss off but hey better safe than sorry!! <IMG alt="image" SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Sh*t man, I go away for a bit and come back to this?!?!

    Justin, that situation is most definatley f*cked. On the other hand, you can only go with what you know, and as you didn't.....

    That don't really help I know, just don't get too freaked by it, next time you'll know better, right??
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Ok, so she was 14. Big deal.I know it may seem a bit horrifying etc because it probably goes agaist your own moral values and all but the thing is you did have a good time, You both decided no ties, nothing more....so just forget about the fact that she was 14 ok>? And is it me or is it the younger kids are so much more slapperish now?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Ok i understand that you must feel really used but if she was pissed enough to have sex with a man 5 years older then she could have been so pissed that she would lie about her age and i suppose that it wasn't only you that thought she was 18 or what cus she must have bought a drink of two so i would just forget about it as it was her that cam e onto you.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    The good thing is you're 'ashamed' or at least you feel bad, if you didn't feel bad it would be sick, but hey, it happened, move on!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    How old are you Justin?

    I don't know if I'm some sick freak, but you are living the dream. It all sounds like an evening well spent to me, although under 16 is a bit suspicious. You were drunk, so was she, she seemed 17+ and nobodies hurt from it. You're not seeing her again, just forget about it. How many years are there between you anyway?

    If there's grass on the pitch... lets play. <IMG alt="image" SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i disagree with what groovaybaby said, if they wanna 'experiment' as much as they can then id definately call them a slapper. plus the fact is they should tell you their age, there are plenty of guys who may be desperate enough to go out with a girl who's about 14 when they are like 19 even if they knew it, so u might as well tell them. just remember, its allright to have a one night stand sometimes but if they are a complete slapper then fuck no <IMG alt="image" SRC="tongue.gif" border="0"> <IMG alt="image" SRC="confused.gif" border="0"> <IMG alt="image" SRC="tongue.gif" border="0"> <IMG alt="image" SRC="confused.gif" border="0">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    If there's grass on the pitch... lets play. <IMG alt="image" SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0">

    I'm 19 (20 in feb), I lost my virginity at 13 and it messed about with my head somewhat (not saying everyone should follow my path, obviously.. individuals), I think 14 is too young to be playing around and doing what she did, no disrespect intended...

    I mean, 14, getting drunk, picking a guy and shagging them on the beach is not your average night out at that age... I indeed was clubbing myself then but I didn't do the whole one-night stand thing like that and she seemed to be pretty orientated on what to do signifiying to me that shes done it before...

    And besides, I've always tried to stick with the rules, where-as I haven't slept with people below certain ages as I've got older as posted in the forum some time ago..

    14yrs with a 19yr old is in my book not right

    Ages are definatly growing up faster, and they shouldn't have to...

    [ 21-01-2002: Message edited by: Justin Credible ]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ...
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by KrazedKT:
    <STRONG>... I told him I was only 14 (he was 18) and he was a bit p'd off and called me a slapper.</STRONG>

    Actually KrazedKT has drawn attention there to a bit of hypocracy in us men hasn't she? I mean, she was no less mature, attractive, experienced, etc in reality after she told him her real age. The only thing that changed was that he now knew he'd been too eager to jump into bed with her to find out who she really was.

    I know this isn't therefore very supportive of the opening post to this thread. I don't mean any offence, but it happened because you didn't take care - didn't stop to wonder.

    Now you are right that if she acted older, was drinking, etc, etc, then you say how could you have known? Why should you suspect?

    The answer is because you already know from these forums that there are a lot of 14 year old girls out there, drinking, clubbing and shagging. Hell, even when I was a teen it was common knowledge that girls under 16 often look and act much older. If I knew that then, then you really ought to have known that now.

    Its over now, and no harm is done (let's hope the condom was effective) but you do need to learn lessons from it if you don't want it to happen again.

    How a girl looks and acts, and even what she tells you her age is, may not be the truth of her real age. Get to know your partners better before you do anything that can't be undone.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Dont worry about it, whats done is done. I have to say though that a lot of guys are up for it with girls when they know they are young. As young girls are up for it with older guys. Im 16 and a while ago I was in a bar and noticed this guy smiling at me. He introduced himself to me and I spent the night with him. He was 29. We didnt go all the way, just pulled and hugged loads. I was extremely drunk and I regret it a lot, although I did enjoy it at the time. He said to me maybe we can meet up sometime, but Im not going to get in touch with him and I hope he does not get in touch with me. To me older guys seem more up for stuff than younger guys a lot of the time. I want to find someone clsoer to my age. Im on the look out....
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Its so annoying....things for me never seem to work out with guys I go out with who are my age. Then I get old guys chatting me up and Ive had two stalkers. One of which was in his 40s and asked me out. I just ignored him and walked away. If only I hadnt been so drunk in the bar, then I would have told him to FUCK OFF and find someone his own age!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Fairy - I am sure there hundreds of eager 16-17 year old boys near you infact there are probably hundreds on this site.... <IMG alt="image" SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    when i was 14, i reckon around 30-40% of the girls in my school had had sex, probably more than once (different people) and I knew loads that got drunk & went clubbing all the time. I'm not saying it's right, but its not a rare thing u know!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Alistair- You have cheared me up a bit, thanx <IMG alt="image" SRC="wink.gif" border="0">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    No problem, anytime <IMG alt="image" SRC="wink.gif" border="0">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I just wanted to give a little legal advice, which applies to England and probably many other Common Wealth countries.

    If this situation happens and you are under 24 you can plead the "Young mans rule". What it means is that if you are under 24, have never been charged with the same, or similar offence before and believed that the girl was 16 or over you will not be liable for conviction.

    Since the essential ingredient of this defence is "and believed that the girl was 16 or over" you may think it worth trying to pre-empt any charges by going to the police in advance. This will always look good in front of the police and if worst comes to worst - a jury.

    Of course this will use up your life line, but then I suggest if you doing it that often you may wish to learn how to relax you buttock muscles as you will soon be the prison play thing.

    As for morally - it cant be wrong if you didnt know how old the girl was surely. Or atleast if you had no way of knowing. I mean what are you supposed to do, ask to see a current valid passport before you have intercourse.

    I can imagine what your chances of under the bed sheet fun would be if that were the case.

    [ 23-01-2002: Message edited by: Rego Mentem ]

    [ 23-01-2002: Message edited by: Rego Mentem ]
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