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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
in Sex & Relationships
Ive done a search and nothing came up-sorry if its been talked about before anyway!
My boyfriend has fingered me about four times now and every time it has hurt. Not a lot but its been quite uncomfortable, i think he only uses one or two fingers and he doesnt do it roughly but i still have discomfort! is this normal? i hadn't been fingered before,is it meant to hurt the first few times? Does this mean it will be painful for me when i eventually have sex?!plz reply, thanx a lot xXx
p.s-im quite new here, im 16 and I CAN SPELL!sorry just wanted to say that we arent all dyslexic!

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yes, that's normal me thinx!!

    It should hurt less the more you do it (very good excuse!).

    ooo but make sure his fingernails aren't sharp!

    It might hurt a bit the first time you have sex, just don't worry coz then you tense up and that'll mean it hurts!!

    ah well, no pain no gain hun, it'll stop hurting in time...you just need...how can I put this nicely?..stretching slightly!!
    x
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yeah thats normal
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    normal normal normal <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ok-but furry friend(or ne1 else)... is there nething i can do to stop it hurting?will it just stop hurtin after time then?ohhhh im so confused!y duz everything have to be so bloomin complicated!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    dildo??? lubricant???
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Make sure you are wet enough and then just relax. In time it will stop cause the more you do it the easier it becomes. Sex may or may not hurt depending on you as a person. The best thing to do is not worry cause that can make things hurt more because you will tense up. so relax and have fun. :) Good Luck.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    o god the first time I was fingered it hurt like hell!! He just shoved them (as in 3) up and there it was!! But now with my current guy hes really gental and makes sure I'm wet enough before putting anything anywhere!! Just make sure your relaxed and your wet enough and it will get easier!! I promise!;)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It will get better with time, and i guess you can speed that up by doing it yourself!

    The more you do it to yourself, the more likely you are to be relaxed, and also you'll know what u like!

    mwah

    p.s ENJOY!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Like everyone else has said make sure you are relaxed/turned on, also if he starts of with one fnger and then works his way up it should be more pleasurable :)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Two things

    One make him clip his nails and wash his hands. If he has rough hands it will hurt more.

    Number two, it hurts a lot less when one uses one's tongue, and it brings with it just the right amount of built-in lubrication..... then have him head north just a bit and you'll wonder why you didn't think of this earlier.
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