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We just cant seem to have sex

me & my bf decided to have sex a while ago, we brought some condoms and were ready. we just couldn't seem to get his dick into me, we are both virgins and we dont know what we are doing wrong. After a while of trying to do it, i become sore so we have to stop trying. We have tried twice and both times we have been unsuccessful, both times he was hard and i was wet so we are not sure what is happening. can ne1 give us some advice please?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I know this is a really stupid question, but are you trying to get it in the correct hole... (forgive me)

    Anyway, you should really try to stimulate yourself, or get him to do it, before you have sex so that your sexual muscles relax and welcome his member (ok, sad word use).

    If that fails then use KYJelly or some other form of Lube (not vaseline though!). And, remember a condom!

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You have to help him and guide it in, it's difficult for him to know what to do on his first time, he doesn't want to hurt you but he's in control and has to figure it all out while you lie there. That's what I've been told anyway....
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    it's hard to get it in there if you're not really wet and relaxed. foreplay is the key word here <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    Your cycles have bled into ones supposed to be my own
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    both times we tried i have been wet, i asked a friend after the first attempt and she said make sure he hasnt made u cum b4 u try. the 2nd time we made sure i hadnt cum, but it still didnt work. weve talked about it loads and have decided to use KYJelly next time, can ne1 tell me how much it is? Ive also tried to help him guide it in, we seem to get it in a little bit but it justs comes out. we find it really annoying cos we just thought it was going to be easy. thanx 4 all the advice, has ne1 got nemore?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    KY Jelly costs about £2+ from Chemists.

    If you go to your local family planning clinic, Brook Centre or Doctor, you can get condoms and lube for free.

    You can also get them online for free too from some sites - try using a search engine.



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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    If you go to http://www.hgscotland.org.uk/ (which is a gay site) you can request free condoms and Lube (KY Jelly).

    I have been using them for the past year, and the condoms are for use in hetro relationships as well, and they give you about 15 sachets of KY Jelly <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

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    [This message has been edited by Ross (edited 09-06-2001).]
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    No probs hun, what position are you two normally in when you try? Cos thats probably got a lot to do with it.
    If he is on top of you, get him to hold your shoulders. The reason his penis is coming out very shortly after its gone in, could be because hes not "thrusting" into you. Its gonna take time, so be patient. Another explanation might be that becayse your a virgin, the muscles inside you are tight, regardless of if you're wet or not.
    Hope thats helped. xxxxx

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Falling_Angel:
    If he is on top of you, get him to hold your shoulders. The reason his penis is coming out very shortly after its gone in, could be because hes not "thrusting" into you. Its gonna take time, so be patient. Another explanation might be that becayse your a virgin, the muscles inside you are tight, regardless of if you're wet or not.
    Hope thats helped. xxxxx


    Wouldn't thrusting just make things more painful, as opposed to slowly working it in? I'm kinda in the same boat as her b/f at the moment, and came across an interesting article where they suggested slight entry at first and just let it sit there a while talking/kissing/whatever, then try to move a bit further, etc.

    Also, if the original poster tries this, I'd be interested in some feedback.

    Tommy
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I had this problem first time with my GF! we were tyring but it wouldnt go in, difference is i wasnt a virgin but my gf was! we just percevered! and one day we had gone out, had a couple of drinks, o were relaxed! then we did foreplay for ages until she was really exited and gagging for it, then i just put it in, it was a bit of a push but once it is in, no problem!!!

    Just keep trying, always talk to your partner! Try lubricant but dont start stressing that it wont go in! or you will get into viscious circle!!!

    It might hurt you at first but after teh first couple of times you will enjoy it and believe it to be the best thing in the world!!!

    Hope this helps!

    Blade
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Day_Walker, this post is practically collecting its pension.

    After 2 months a topic can be considered DEAD.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Sorry, but it was at the top of my topics list in the sex forum! duh! sorry miss!

    Blade
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    *grins* sorry Day_Walker, but

    dude. post. dead.

    how on earth could it be at the top of your list of topics?!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Look. i dont know why it was there, but i dont exactly go looking for lod posts to bring up. it was there so i replied to it! simple as that! suprisingly enough, it is still there at teh top of my list!!!!

    Blade
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Refresh the page (using ctrl-R) and it should all be good.

    And I really need to do something about that dude.post.dead thing. very annoying and calvinesque.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    dude. post. dead. Turtle. <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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