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Losing your virginity
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What is your perfect dream of losing your virginity?
I'm 15 and although a lot of people I know my age are having sex I'm kinda glad I'm still a virgin. I mean so many people lose virginity while there drunk or when they don't really want to I would hate to do it like that!
What are people's views on this? What were people's first times like? And for virgins how would you like to lose your virginity to?
Personally, I think the longer you wait the better. If I lose it when I don't really mean it or have that strong feelings for the person I know sex will just become trashy and nothing special to me. I want it to be special and really inwith the person-not just I've been with them for a few weeks lets do it I mean think of when the time actually comes it would be so great!Of course, i do get tempted:)
What do other people think?
I'm 15 and although a lot of people I know my age are having sex I'm kinda glad I'm still a virgin. I mean so many people lose virginity while there drunk or when they don't really want to I would hate to do it like that!
What are people's views on this? What were people's first times like? And for virgins how would you like to lose your virginity to?
Personally, I think the longer you wait the better. If I lose it when I don't really mean it or have that strong feelings for the person I know sex will just become trashy and nothing special to me. I want it to be special and really inwith the person-not just I've been with them for a few weeks lets do it I mean think of when the time actually comes it would be so great!Of course, i do get tempted:)
What do other people think?
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Bopz
17 and a virgin :eek:
sex is menna be special and when i have sex for da first time, i wanna make it something good that i will never for the rest of my life
luv lou
luv lou
p.s.
why what do you remmeber about loosing your virginity
Just dont let smooth words and good looks fool you into letting go before youre sure the guy (whoever he may be) also has a decent character and will not simply use you.
Hang in there baby, it's just the start of a long road...
the main thing i would be worried about is people calling me a slut and getting a bad reputation, even though lots of girls in my year have already done it. however if people found out i'd lost my virginity i bet i'd get loads of stick coz i dont think they'd expect it from me. can you familiarise with any of that?
loopy loz xx
and as for your question about what people would like there first time to be like well,
i would like mine to be like that blonde girl in american pie (don't know her name?) and her boyfriends first time was like because i think it was good that they waited untill they were both ready and he was really nice and gentle with her, i think it was sweet the way he asked her if she wanted him to stop because it was hurting her..........
i'm getting to involved in movies here arnt i?
whoops
luv kinx
i think 16-17, not sure, i dont really know!! lol
i wish i looked like the blonde one *vicky* thats all i know!
yeah true they were a bit formal but i prefered the way they lost it then any of the others because they seemed to be the most caring for each other, and i'm not really thinking that my first time is going to be to passionate because i think ill be too worried about everything else like the pain and how i look !!:)
Although I wouldn't say lose your virginity to just anyone and be sober when you do it.
Get on and lose it then you can get on with getting all the awarkard stuff out the way and go on to enjoying a good safe sex life.
I have never had a girlfriend who disagrees. Most of them regret waiting so long for it to be right which in the end it never was when you could have been enjoying yourself.
thanks for any help xx
im also 15 + have had sex with two different people! i lost my virginity at 13 while drunk it was also in a bush!hm nt very nice!bt i found it didn hurt atall mayb it was coz i cudn feel pain!the second time i had been going out with this boy for a month and really wanted sex!so we went to a house party and went in a room called "the meditation room"lol but i definatly am glad ive had sex!its sooo nice!and wudn waste time waiting for "the perfect moment" me and my boyf still have sex and it gets beta and beta every time!:D
luv *sxy bunny grl*xxx
It wasn't exactly what I'd always wanted if I'm honest. I always imagined "making love" with someone I loved a lot and he loved me equally, but this predictably didn't happen. Instead it was a drunken fumble under a table with some guy I didn't particuarly fancy but I felt as if I was in position where I had too. :rolleyes: Sadly, because I was desperate for a "proper" relationship to make me feel like I had actually lost my virginity to that special someone, I spent a lot of time chasing him and embarassing myself in the process, even though I didn't really fancy him. Now I look back and cringe at the thought of ever having shared bodily juices with this guy.
If you want to have sex, have sex. I wouldn't want to promote ignoring the age of consent, but neither will I support it as this would be extremely hypocritical seeing as I had already notched up seven lovers before I was sixteen. The point is though, (and I know this is a cliche) do it when you feel like it. If you love someone, then go for it. Don't let anyone pressurise you, but if you feel happy that it's what you want to do, go for it.
Good luck longboatkey and others, I hope you get your perfect first time.
I remember making a love potion for us both that night, (yes, he thought I was insane!) and it seemed to work! :crazyeyes
Unfortunately the man in question was a complete nightmare. I was 19 at the time, and didn't care who it was with. I just wanted to get it over and done with to be honest.
It's not as if I have never had the oportunity, it's just never been right.
Where you at?
We are kinda getting well off topic here.
I shouldn't feel "out of it" because I've never had sex. And really it isn't an issue. I just feel imature, almost as if people can sense it and go "awww. he's a virgin, be gentle"
Coming to think about it I'm starting to worry a little more about not being in a situation where I COULD loose my virginity. My last long term relationship ended 2 years ago (almost to the day actually!) and since then I've not had anything serious enough to go the whole way. I'm kinda hoping uni might change that.