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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
hi ya all

i am a little self concious about my looks (well to be speecific, my bust). i have small breasts and wud like them 2 be a bit bigger. my best mate has Very BIG breasts and shes always cracking jokes about mine...saying how small they are "like pancakes" (they're not that small) and its getting very annoying. shes had quite a few boyfriends and i've only had 1 which didnt last very long. now my other mate has started to make jokes about how many boyfriends i've had. they both do it in front of a group of people and they all end up looking at me. should i say something to my mates about what they're doing?

what i want to know guys is how many of u like a big breasted woman? and just for the record my breasts are not VERY small so don5t be mislead (i'm a 34 A)

appriciete the replies

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Your mate is acting like a twat, tell her to fuck off and shut the hell up.

    Seriously doubt your boyfriend problems have anything to do with your boobs.

    Personally I prefer smaller breasts...biguns just dont do it for me.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    should i say something to my mates about what they're doing?
    yes you should, if they are proper mates then they won't wnat to do anything that hurts you.....

    Breast size (and looks in general) shouldn't matter if you want to have a proper relationship with someone+lots of women (supermodels in particular) who are considered to be the most beautiful in the world only have small breasts, so don't worry.....
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Ok, well i'm not a guy, but hope i can help.

    Firstly, tell you're friends how they're making you feel! They shouldn't treat you like that, talk to them about it. If they don't stop, then i think you should find new friends.

    Breasts come in all different shapes and sizes. And i think you'd find most guys don't care what size you are, if they do, the guy isn't worth it in the first place. Mine aren't exactly small, they can be a pain in the arse. Girls with smaller breasts can go without wearing a bra better.

    It doesn't matter what size breasts you've got, it matters what's on the inside. Any guy that goes for breast size, is shallow.

    Sorry if i wasn't much help.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> hello
    dont worry about it! im a gurl but still fought id tell u my opinion. ur mates a bitch. i used to have the same problem wiv my mates. shes a 36c she used to rake the piss out of me. the think i realised was guys only went out wiv her cus she had big tits. so one day i turned round to her and sed least guys dont go out wiv me 4 my tits! u shud say that to ur mate! hope i helped bye! <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    exactly would you rather attract a lad because
    a) your bust mirrors jordans and thats about as far up your body as he looks, or
    b) because your a superby fabulous smashing person <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    oh and also tel your mate to stop it because teh remarks are obviuosly hurtfull <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Your friend is a complete cow! She's no mate. Personnaly I don't mind what size breasts are so long as they are nice looking. It's also not just about breast size. It's about personality too. People probably only go out with her cos of her breasts. You must have more to offer.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I agree with Maca, but also, the fact that your mate looks like she has so much confidence is probably the only reason she gets the guys!
    I say "looks like" because really, deep down she is probably quite insecure and embarrassed about the size of her chest and so therefore, takes it out on someone that she thinks won't challenge her. [ie. she can get away with it.]
    I think you should let her know that this upsets you and above all, you should stand up for yourself!
    And by the way, small breasts have their advantages as well. You can go bra-less, play sport, and get underwear easily!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Tell your friend exactly how bad she's making you feel. That's doing the decent thing, giving her a chance to explain/apologise. She deserves to be told to fuck off <IMG SRC="mad.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> There's a chance she feels really insecure about her own looks for a different reason, but that's not an excuse to make you feel bad.

    Good luck <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hey hun i know how you feel - my 10 year old sis has almost the same sized chest as me... anyway this 'mate' you're talking about is really what you don't need. you need people supporting you (it's true, small boobs can get you down) and her going around flaunting her chest isn't exactly going to make you smile. so tell her that you could do with a bit more consideration cos' it isn't easy for you. my advice - get a padded bra. it's worked wonders for me! and i doubt guys worry about size of them as much as we do! do you guys??
    Sponge xxx <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I don't think its terrible to like nice breast or have preferences. I think to base a relationship off it is a bit superficial. Anyway there are several variables that constitute nice breast. Size can be a misleading plus sometimes. Iguess its easy to notice because they are bigger but they're not always so nice when you get to see them. I think big breast are more likely to be ill shaped and saggy unless implanted which is artificial. Not to mention they are kinda a pain if you do anything althetic. I definately prefer medium size breast and really think shape is more important than size.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    your friend sounds like a bully to me
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hi

    thanx guys for all your replies. you're right, i should say something to my mate. she has been the best mate a person could ever ask for over the last 2 years that i've known her. she has been there when i needed a shoulder to lean on which is why it hurts so much. and yes your right, she is self-concious about her breasts, she always says that she wishes she had smaller ones. you see the thing that hurts the most is the fact that when she critises she can see that i dont like it...but then she'll do it again a week later.

    as for my other "mate", well she is an overdramatic freak who goes on and on and on and on about the same thing (i.e. when she said something which was funny when she first said it {two weeks ago!!} no joke!!) and that gets really annoying. on saturday a group of 8 people went to a 16th party/sleepover and this "mate" met a lad through the night - then said (in the morning)to me in front of everyone

    "well at least i'm not afraid to show affection to my boyfriend in front of my mates - oh sorry you've only had 1 b/f havent you" and then started to laugh, so the rest of them laughed too.

    that pissed me off soooooo much - i felt crap - i felt like walking over to her and slapping her!!

    anyway sorry if i confused you but i would like to hear more advice from all of you
    thank you. <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="mad.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Some friends <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> Like everyone else has said, although i didnt read them all, they are not your friends. If they crack jokes like that then f***ing punch them.
    If a guy doesnt fancy you then their lose. I dont exactly have many girlfriends but i know that i would rather have one who likes me and not my body.
    Just be patient and someone will come along who is worth your time. Besides if the guy is only looking at the size of your breasts then does he care about you <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
    Good luck
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    MOST MEN LIKE THE BREAST BUT I DON'T CARE
    THE ATT IS WHAT MATTERS
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Your only 17, you have 4 years till you still growing so who knows you may get bigger, i've heard there are a few thing you can eat or drink to help you get bigger breasts, but i don't think having bigger breasts will make you have lots of bf(well it may but you could get the wrong kind of bf)

    you want a bf who doesn't care what size your breasts are, as for your mate i know girls could be bitches but they seem to well out of order! tell them there remarks hurt you and ask them to stop, but if they see it hurts you they may Increase they bullying.not sure how you get them to stop

    i can't say size really matters to me
    its the person that Counts the most to me <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Quickstar, why are you friends with this person? Its hardly good for you to have her putting you down constantly.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Some mates you have! <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    One question:
    Do you think less of yourself for not having big boobs? Cuz it might be a matter of self-esteem instead of physical perfection.

    Your mate claims to be concious of her tits being too big, wishing they'd be a little smaller? Remind her of this when she cracks jokes about yours.

    Good luck to you
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Quickstar,

    This question is as constant amongst girls as penis size seems to be amongst guys.

    I personally prefer smaller breasts (a,b,c cups) to larger ones. Just remember the line from the movie Weird Science... "..more than a mouthful and you'll sprain your tongue"

    Be happy with what youve got, revel in your sexuality and tell your critics to go stuff themselves!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hi,
    I personally find small boobs very sexy and I know that I am not the only bloke that thinks that way.

    Just be yourself and try to ignore your "friends".

    Good luck.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    THANX GUYS

    i have confronted the mate who always takes the mick out of my breasts but she didnt seem to care about the fact that i had brought the conversation up. <IMG SRC="mad.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> she doesnt seem to realise how down i have been recently (i wont go into the details)!

    and as for all the lads who have said that breast size doesnt matter...well i would love to meet a lad who thought of that!!

    personally i dont think that if i hang around with a mate with large breasts, that i stand a chance of getting a boyfriend...what do you all think?

    love to hear your replies again <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    no experience with touching or anything here but i have eyes and i know what i like.
    two ways i see things...if i dont know the girl then i prefer small breasts...if i know the girl and i actually have feelings for her then it doesnt matter a thing to me how big her breasts are...i fancy them just the same.
    basically, those breasts might be big or small, but at the end of the day they are attached to you and YOU are what matters if the guy is worth going out with

    shallow is s***

    ~dappa
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Id love to meet you Quickstar, but unfortunately the difference in our ages would be scandalous. LOL.

    Im sure there are plenty of guys closer to your age who would pick you over your larger breasted "friends", just believe in who you are and guys will pick up on that self-assurance. Self-confident females are as sexy to guys as such guys are to females so just be proud of you!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    THANX GUYS

    well i've been thinking and quite frankly your right. today my "friend" was pissing me off soooooo much so i slapped her across the face! i was frightened because i lost control...everything just got on top of me and i snapped!

    anyway i am pleased to report that i am now no longer friends with her and i feel much better for it! i dont think we'll eva make up, which is a good thing (i think!)

    anyway thanx for all your help...i would definatly recommend this site to anyone with problems!

    thanx

    p.s. anyone from north of uk (not scotland) who wants to meet up (just as mates) i would be grateful of the frienship! if anyones interested just e-mail me at

    sarah_wilson02@hotmail.com

    see ya

    p.p.s. do any of you think that i've done the right thing with my mate? <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    p.p.s. do any of you think that i've done the right thing with my mate?

    yes.
    definately.

    it would have been a bit wierd lookin if ya jumped her down an alley or somethin, but as you actually confronted her and explained beforehand what was doin ya head in about the way she treated ya then she knows why she got a slap <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by QuickStar:
    <STRONG>p.p.s. do any of you think that i've done the right thing with my mate? <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"></STRONG>
    Yep definitely. She probably only puts you down because she has low self-esteem herself but that doesn't excuse what she does to you. Stand up for yourself and be proud of who and what you are. Don't listen to anyone who makes you feel bad about yourself. Life is too short to go through it feeling like shit (trust me I know) because of someone else.

    As for having 34A boobs .... well mine were only a 34B at your age and now they're anything from a 34C/36B/C depending on where I shop and how much excercise I do. I hve friends that have much smaller AND much larger breasts than me (different people obviously) and all of these pull equally ... it's nothing to do with the size of breasts at all.

    Be strong and stand up for yourself. Whatever happens though we're always here for you. Afraid that I live in Scotland though and so meeting up is out of the question.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hi Quickstar.
    I can honestly say that of all my past partners,none of them have been particularly big in the boob department,(actually,there was one who was a 40DD,but the less said about her the better!).
    It's not been through choice or anything,it's just that that's the way it's worked out.
    I've always gone on the idea that it's the person I'm dating,not their body. My last partner was a 32A.
    You seem like a really nice,pleasant person to me and if I happened to live in Northern England,I would definately be looking to seek you out. As it is,I'm from the Midlands so that's that idea out of the window!
    If you don't mind though,as I said,you seem like a very nice person and I would like to get to know you better,so can I E-Mail you?
    My E-Mail address is in my profile,so if you feel like getting in touch then please,feel free to mail me!
    Look forward to hearing from you soon
    Mad Hatter.

    <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Firstly, these so called 'mates' of yours are not bieng your mates at all. Especially to ridicule you in front of a crowd just for a bloody laugh.

    If she has enourmous banjoe's she'll probably have a back problem in later life from having to support the weight so you can laugh back at her then. I know that sounds cruel but she is a bitch for doing that to you, plain and simple.

    As for busty women, most men I know are not really that bothered. If a girl is fairly attractive and nice enough the rest is not important. Don't worry about it.

    BTW Attractive means someone who's face you can look at without heaving <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> .

    Also, get some new friends.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by QuickStar:
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    that pissed me off soooooo much - i felt crap - i felt like walking over to her and slapping her!!

    QB]

    You should have. In fact, the next time you see her walk up to her and slog her in the jaw from me <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> (Seriously, don't do that, you'll fall to her level. You can slap her for comments like that though!)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Your only 17, you have 4 years till you still growing so who knows you may get bigger,


    NOOOOOOOOOOOO! MAKE THEM STOP!!!! MAKE THEM STOP!!!! they are big enough already!!! <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i know i'm a bit late but i think she was taking the piss out of your breasts to take the attention away from someone taking the piss out of hers.
    mine are only small aswell and i've had plenty of boyfriends and not one of them has had a problem with them.
    just get on with you life and forget about her. just remember whos tits will be saggy in years to come and whos won't.you'll find someone soon.
    my last thought is that she only did it so that lads would feel that they would get the piss ripped out of them if they went out with you because she knows that really you stand more chance than her at getting a boyfriend. she sounds like a tart to me
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