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stages or straight to it?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
i was just wondering if you guys with some experience could give me some advice....do u think it is better to work up to sex with ur partner with like blow jobs and fingering and stuff like that or is it ok to just go ahead and have sex straight aways without any of that other stuff b4 it???

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    personnally with my ex, i found it easyier to do 4play etc first coz it made us both a lot more relaxed with each others body and less shocked anbout feelings.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I agree with rebelgrl, 4play lets you get used to each others body and what pleases them. It also made me become more trusting of my b/f, so that helped too. Saying that, i dont suppose there's anything WRONG with having sex before doing the other stuff, its just i think most feel more comfortable building up to it 1st. xx
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Foreplay definatly. Going straight to it maybe if you were somewhere a bit dodgy..car parks etc but usually foreplay etc... it's all a build up. Its the best bit as sex isn't all it's made out to be!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    foreplay is soooooooo a must!! unless youre both extremely turned on and somewhere dodgy like kat said <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;
    and as she also said, sex is made out to be alot more than it is. foreplay IS the best part most of the time, because heheh, it just is <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;
    plus, when you're with someone you love, it's more like making love if you pay attention to their body before you erm, dive in. otherwise, it's well.. just kinda sex innit?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Foreplay is pretty much always a must as it makes you wetter and the guy harder so that you are both ready to have sex. Like Kat said unless you are both just going for a quickie in a dodgy place.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yeah, what they all said.

    and like susie said, foreplay CAN be better than sex, cause there is so much more you can do during. sometimes straight sex can be monotonous.

    just gives you more things try. and experimenting is fun. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    4play is good coz it makes you feel lush but you still feel a bit missing then comes the sex and boy was it worth waiting 4!!!!!! wink wink
  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    definitely do it gradually, with foreplay and stuff. do we mean like, in one night when having sex, or with someone for the first time, over a period of weeks and months? coz im not too sure if thats what you meant and everyone took it the first way <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    either way, id say take it slowly, do it in stages, everyone else has explained why better than i can at the moment <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Although i know a few ppl who just wanted to loose their VIRGINITY and just did it without foreplay...... *WHY?????*
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well, personally, it can thought be good to go straight into the sex thing and leave all the foreplay for later. I see foreplay as an extra and sex as a must. I am just a typical male i think, lol.

    But, with my past 2 partners, i have done foreplay b4 sex, so i must be changing somehow. And, from experience, i can say that foreplay builds trust more than sex straight away - thats why my past 2 relationships have lasted longer than my other 3.... theres the proof. lol.

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    me and my ex never hardly did n e 4play and the sex was always shite!
    it was a quick quickie and that was it, poo, poo, poo. i hated it.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    4play <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    can get enough of it <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/rolleyes.gif"&gt;

    pyrex
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Wham, bam, thank you Ross. Don't you care if your partner enjoys sex? It's not just about you getting your end away you know.

    You are NOT typical of men, just a certain age group perhaps. The fact that you are changing your attitude shows that you are maturing

    Quickie sex is okay on occasions (like diving up an alley, or out walking) but long foreplay is much more fun.

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    LOL <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

    spontanious sex is fun but rarely as good as 4play sex.

    pyrex
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    The whole point of the thread was do you have sex straight away with your partner or did you have foreplay B4 sex, not did you build up to sex with foreplay. lol.

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