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Im embarassed to ask but can anyone help.

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
I recently lost my virginity, and ever since My b/f has been on top. But he mentioned that next time he wants me on top. Its rather embarassing but I'm worried I'll do something wrong (he's really sexually experienced).

Can any of you give me some advice? I'd be really grateful.

Thanks

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ignore this guy, you need advice not some perv. coming on to you.

    Really dont worry about it, if you and your boyfriend are close you should be able to tell him of your concerns, and you can sort this out together.

    If you are on top you are much more in control over things like speed, depth of penetration and stuff like that, its apparently a real feeling of power, and much more pleasurable than the missionary.

    You really cant do anything wrong, just take it nice and slow, and talk it througgh with him, any concerns about things like this are best talked about wiht your partner, as hes more experinced, and knew you were a virgin before he should understand.

    Hope that helps

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    it wud appear that our well endowed friend, as well as having THE most appalling grammar i eva hope 2 c (can u understand a word of wot he said?) also cannot maintain a web-page., ie his link doesnt lead to a real page!

    ahh, this jus gets better.

    oh, rite, the question. erm, dunno im afraid - even less experience in this than u. but i think ur b/f shud b open 2 talking bout it . . . . . .sorry!!!

    "I see no vestage of a beginning, no sign of an end"
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I say do what you r comfortable with, ask him what he would like you to do, make it an experience not just a chore or something ure worried abt.

    (not that i know)

    Spike
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Don't worry so much, if u really like this guy, which i hope u do if ure sleeping with him, then he won't mind giving u a little guidance. Just do what feels natural, and if you're worried ask 'is that ok?' or 'how does that feel?'. Sex is something to enjoy, so have a little fun, take this as an opportunity to find the pace and depth YOU enjoy.

    Devon
    The earth is made of dirt and wood, and I'd be water if I could
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    O.k., although your boyfriend may disagree, his cock is not actually a "rod of iron". If you are on top go slow at first, don't pummel him, it is a sensitive tool so respect it. Then you can build up the pace and depth you enjoy most.

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I am embarrassed to say that I have lost my sex drive completely, my partner is getting frustrated and doesnt think I fancy him anymore, which unfortunately could be true, is there anyway it will come back, its not a recent thing.
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    Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    Originally posted by Funk-Magnet:
    I am embarrassed to say that I have lost my sex drive completely, my partner is getting frustrated and doesnt think I fancy him anymore, which unfortunately could be true, is there anyway it will come back, its not a recent thing.

    whats this got to do with pips being on top or not? this is what the post new topic button is all about...

    Out of my mind. Back in five minutes.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

    Space Chick, do you ever post words?!?

    Pips,

    Don't worry too much about it, if you've already had sex then everything else is pretty much a variation on the same theme and just a question of mechanics, though Cap'n Kirk's comments are well put.

    You don't want to keep to the same position forever do you?? Then you should be able to feel free to experiment as much as you want, keep a sense of humour and it'll be OK.

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    On top is great. I think if you go with the flow you will be fine. You can tease him as much as you like, fondle him while he's inside you, maintain eye cotact and he can play with your breasts. You can be as controlling as you like (when your comfortable)or he can guide you using your hips as to pace etc. Try it. I think it is a fantastic position for a woman (works your thigh muscles though,owch)and he gets a rest. Wait until your happy trying it then Bonk for Britain!!

    Little Angelxxx
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