Progressing from texting to phone conversations

Former Member

Several weeks ago, one of the hundreds of girls I've sent messages to on dating websites replied to me. For this to happen to me is rare. We sent messages to each other through the website for a week and a half, before moving to text messaging, at my request. Since then, we've sent many text messages to each other. On several occasions, I've suggested that we speak on the phone. Every time I do that, she stops replying to my texts and it takes a couple of days before she'll text me again (otherwise she typically texts me every day). I know very little about her because her profile is short, as are all of her messages through the site and all of her texts. She doesn't reply to some of the questions I've asked her. I've told her that she can say whatever she likes to me. She's told me that she wants to have sex with me, but I can't see how that can happen when she won't even talk to me on the phone. If she doesn't want me, why does she text me most days? If she does want me, why won't she talk to me on the phone and why are all her texts so short? Does she only want to text and never do any more with me? I've asked her, but that's one of the questions that she doesn't answer. It seems bizarre that someone might go on a dating website to merely find a text buddy; I can't see how anyone could be satisfied by texting alone.

How might I move this situation forward? What do you think is her view of me and what do you think she wants from me? I can't work that out.

Former Member

Let me know what you think x