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Frigid.......

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
I am 15, and extremely worried about losing my Lady V. (Virginity)
I don't intend on losing it for a few years yet, but when i do....!
I am sooo scared. Just the thought of a guy going anywhere near my nether regions scares the shit out of me.
I felt like this about kissing a guy..until a couple of weeks ago.... <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
why do I feel like this? and am I the only frigid 15 yr old out there....seems like everyones doing it....
TheShyGirlBeth xXx

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Frigid? Why, cos you won't get your knickers off for someone when you feel umcomfotable?
    Yeah, how WEIRD.
    Come on, please. Everyone is NOT doing it. You're body/brain is not stupid. If you don't feel ready it's because you AREN'T ready, not cos your brain wants to have a little laugh at you. If you want to do what everyone else is doing, go ahead. Just don't expect to suddenly feel like part of the gang or have huge amounts of respect for yourself.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    When you find the right person all these worries will pass, but dont waste your virginity on some meaningless fumble, make it an expression of something more
    <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Most say they are when infact, i bet they're not...infact, i guarantee it!
    You aint frigid at all, i think virginity is something you should lose when you're ready and you shouldn't be pushed into anything.
    So don't worry about it! Being 'frigid' (even though you're not) is sooooooooooooooo much better than being the school slag who gets her knickers off for a fiver!! x x x
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'm 18 and I haven't lost my virginity yet. I'm scared too. I have a girlfriend and I know she will help me through it. If you find a guy you like and are nervous about having sex then wait until your comfortable. Try kissing and cuddling before you do it, try to relax and I'm sure you'll have a great time. Good luck.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hi,
    im 15 and im still a virgin and it may feel like everyone else is doing it but they arent!!

    i no how you feel though feeling "fridged" but im sure people will agree that its alot better to lose it with someone you really care about and can trust then losing it with the first boy who offers it to you!

    i mean i could of lost it with my ex boyf but luckily i realised what he was really like before i did and now i try to be more carefull and ive realised that you should make sure your ready before you give away something as precious as your first time!!

    so dont worry bout what other people are doing just do what feels right for YOU!

    good luck!! xx <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Legally at 15 sweetheart your not old enough to have sex anyway!! And with the wrong person it can be the worst experience of your life. Sex is supposed to be part of a loving, caring relationship - you need to find that first. Don't give in to pressure from others as they don't have to live your life - you do. Think I was still playing with my Barbie at 15 - god how times have changed!!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i think almost everybody feels like that at first. its just because it's something you've never done before and you worried that your going to get it wrong. but lots of things need practise so don't worry about it.

    and being scared just shows that you totally not ready for it so don't rush into anything. when you feel more comfortable about sex it shows that your more ready for it
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Stop worrying about things that don't even matter at the moment. As you said, you are not wanting to lose your virginity for a while yet anyway ... and trust me you'll know when the right time comes. I can guarantee that you'll still be a little nervous about it at the time .... but that certainly does not make you frigid. It just makes you a worrier ... but a worrier for all the right reasons. Some people just want to lost their virginity just because, whereas others (like yourself) are more cautious about the whole thing.

    My advice to you is just to take things as they come. If you meet the right guy, you'll know it. Don't be pressured into conforming. I didn't lose my virginity until I was 18 and all my mates respected me for it rather than anything else. Fair enough, I had to put up with the odd 'frigid' comment but purely because they were jealous cos they'd thrown they're own virginity away on some lowlife piece of scum who just wanted to tell his mates that he'd 'bedded a virgin'!!!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    dont stress some people lie about it to look cool at least ur honest with it do it when ur comfatable its ur call and when u feel the time is right it will be ok and u will still feel nervous but excited as well <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Even when you meet someone you can love and want to sleep with, it's still nerve-racking because sex is made out to be such a big deal. It isn't. You've got nothing to worry about, everyone feels like that at some point. Don't get worked up about something which isn't worth it <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    STOP WORRYING!! i'm 15 aswell and although i've done a few things, i've never had sx and if you find the right lad, he'll stay with u no matter whether you r sleepin with him or not, most people at my school r doin it aswell but at least i know i'm not easy like them!! (not all of them r easy, some of them really love there boyfs!!)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    WHOOOOOOOOOOOOO first you are only 15 and second you dont need to worry about it coz everyone does!!!

    Everyone goes through the same situation near this time and i know i di so dont worry about it at all!!!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Legally at 15 sweetheart your not old enough to have sex anyway!!

    since when has legality mattered?

    ok so i see the problem with a 15 year old and a 45 year old and similar age things, but anything else is ok as long as its done carefully (condoms etc)

    oh wtf am i talking about? closest i been to a girl was when i bumped into one in a rave <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    ~dappa
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    when you love someone it wont occur to you what you are doing and it probably wont occur to him either if you know what i mean.
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