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Difficulties with Sex..
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As much as I joke around about 'sex' my sex life is practically non-existent, I seem to be finding any excuse I can not to have sex and then was recently 'told' i had Vaginismus, as everytime I tried having it..It was really painfull, and they put this down to childhood trauma...
I just wondered if anyone else has experienced this, and how they 'overcome' it...
I just wondered if anyone else has experienced this, and how they 'overcome' it...
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This can be sorted out but you need to take a deep breath and go and see your GP.
Regards
Shirl
When you talk about avoiding sex, do you mean altogether? For instance, do you feel uncomfortable with physical intimacy and other foreplay, or is it specifically penetrative sex that's causing you this worry and pain?
I know you've explicitly asked for some personal experiences, but just wanted to chip in and say that if sexual intimacy is an ongoing problem for you then this could be worth exploring with someone in a therapeutic setting - someone like a sex therapist would be trained to support people who have experienced trauma. Often these days places like Brook or a local GUM clinic can make a referral for this kind of thing, but it would require you to be open with them to an extent and may involve some prior testing - quite often they insist on ruling out any STI related pain before exploring psychosexual possibilities (emotional blocks to sex).
Hopefully some others will be willing to share a little from a personal point of view, but would be good to hear how you feel about visiting somewhere like Brook for support.
*hug*
Its quite a combination of the both really, Mainly penetrative sex. but then again I get kinda anxious about doing other things in case it leads to it. I spoke to brook before, i went for a checkup about my Implant and spoke to them about the issues I have, thats who said I have that.."condition" thing.. I've already been tested for STIs and stuff..
The embarrassing problems website says:
You can read more here: http://www.embarrassingproblems.com/problem/sexual-worries/vagina-too-tight
I got referred to a gynaecologist about this which didn't at all help so I don't really know what to suggest apart from make sure you're as relaxed as you can be and I do hope this eventually gets sorted for you *hug*