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Cant stop liking the bad egg
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Help me please I can't keep away from a serious bad egg. Two and a hf years ago I got involved with this guy seemed ok at first but turned out he was seeing me living with another woman and seeing his ex at same time. He's a compulsive liar and alcohol. Whenever he's caught cheating by woman he is with she always thinks its the other woman.
Only with her I've been told for money and what he can get. He's been told numerous times to keep away from me and doesn't and last dealing I had with him he said wasn't interssted and that we weren't even talking. Yet saw him on Friday he made a beeline till his gf ce in an
Only with her I've been told for money and what he can get. He's been told numerous times to keep away from me and doesn't and last dealing I had with him he said wasn't interssted and that we weren't even talking. Yet saw him on Friday he made a beeline till his gf ce in an
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He hasn't been told by police just mates. Last time I contacted him hf said he wasn't interested yet see him fri and makes beeline for me. The woman he's with is an awful lot older than him and have been told on occasssions he's known to have stole from her. I feel jealous as she has him yet know deep down he isn't worth having as he doesn't work either
I have a suggestion for you: Don't contact him.
You want to meet up, he says no, and when he approaches you, you complain about it. This is your own issue. If you can't accept advice that actually solves your problem then don't post here. That's like complaining this cake makes you fat, yet you don't put down the fork and keep shoveling it into yourself.
I don't even know what you expect? People just telling you what an ass he is so you can feel better about yourself? Okay, well then. He is an ass and does not deserve you, even though he would be SO much better off with you, because you are an amazing person.
I haven't his no anymore it's a case of them stupid things called feelings. He doesn't want me yet constantly makes beeline for me ��
Yes, now comes the part where you ignore him. If you don't know what's good for you (eschewing this person 100%) then really there is absolutely nothing you can complain about. You are an obsessive person. This is the same guy you are posting about for years now. If you can't help yourself, nobody can. Learn to be more assertive and don't let people walk over you.
I think it is that she gets to go home with him and I don't pathetic I know. When he gets caught out she always justifies it as its the womans fault. She even contacts the pub of he doesn't go home
I should do this but I can be a soft person... Yet I know he's bad
No, this is not a matter for the police. This guy is not harassing her. She can't keep away from him herself, but wishes she could.
THEN JUST DO IT! Do you have no dignity or respect for yourself? If someone fucks me over I am ANGRY and resent that person and go no-contact asap. I have a modicum of pride and don't let other people use me like a toy.
He's always fucking people over just hate feeling jealous of woman he's with even if he's just using her
This sounds so pathological that I can seriously offer nothing except that you should admit yourself to some form of cognitive therapy. If you can't do what's right for you then what do you hope to gain from this thread? You are not considering those things people are suggesting anyway.
I just want to let you know that jacobs_gal is returning to TheSite every couple months for several years now posting about this exact problem. People have exhaustively advised for everything and anything for a very long time. Just in case you too dislike typing huge walls of text for deaf ears and blind eyes. Also I am StrubbleS not StruggleS, also he is not harassing her. He is committing no felony by running into her in public and talking to her. It doesn't matter what friends say. SHE herself is NOT telling him to back off and leave her alone.
The other women he's living with she don't trust him thou she says he's on a thin line but she constantly takes him bk
I do find it hard regarding him its like the button you're told not to press and feel why her not me but I know it's cause I haven't got my own place etc... She said he always mentions when he sees me out why is he doin that... All I know is people have told me he likes vulnerable women etc
Do you know what I do when there is a button in front of me that I shall not press? I tell you what you do. You sit in front of it, stare at it, and bite your lip as the red glow of the button entrances you, while you say to yourself, "nooo, don't press it... ohhh its so beautiful... no, i pressed it before and it sucked... but its so pretty... nooo dont presssss."
I leave the room. Talk to friends, get to know new people. I work out, I study. I read. I do things in my life that keep me occupied from pressing the button, until I forget about the button and until the button has no more relevance in my life and until there is not a bit of urge to actually press the button anymore.
Well, he obviously likes vulnerable women, because women who stand up for themselves don't give him a second thought. The woman he is involved mainly has to keep tabs on him (contact the pub) and shit. You think that's fun to her? Sitting at home wondering if he comes back? She knows she sits on the thinner branch and he holds all the cards. No woman with a modicum of self-respect lets herself be played by such a fool. And as to why he mentions you to her: because he is emotionally abusive and wants the other woman to know that if she does not play along he can just go over to the next one (you).
I kinda thought that's why he mentions me it is a lil strange. She's quite big and is quite a bit older so I assume she just puts up the way he is find it hard she puts up with it but I guess I can talk
He's still living with the one but she was stood there in pub and he was making eyes at me so not good dont know what's ip with me
Are u saying he doesnt like the one he is living with either?