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Unreasonable demands

Hi everyone - we're doing some new articles about things that make you cringe. I'd like some input from the women who use the boards for the next one.

Does your boyfriend/ex make 'unreasonable demands' in the bedroom? If so, what are they, how does he ask, and most importantly how do you deal with these requests?

Does he expect you to act like a porn star every time you have sex? Does he expect a lot from you and then give not much in return? Have you ever split up with someone because of this?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    My ex was always asking if i'd have sex in my school uniform! It would have been alright if the uniform hadn't included a bottle green blazer! :o Just had to let him down gently...i ran! :D
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Why is this aimed only at women?

    Do girlfriends not make unreasonable demands?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Speedo
    Why is this aimed only at women?

    Do girlfriends not make unreasonable demands?

    Of course not! Girlfriends are always reasonable :p;):D
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by KinkyRed


    Of course not! Girlfriends are always UN reasonable :p;):D

    I think you post should have read like this;) :p;)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Harmless


    I think you post should have read like this;) :p;)

    Pah! You can think what you like! :p
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    back on topic - guys can post too.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    OK, I see your school uniform and raise you this:

    An ex of mine (who can remain nameless) wanted me to pretend to be a virgin....every time. Pester, pester, pester. I had to get rid of him. Ewwww.


    Come on, surely someone can beat this story!
    :D
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Normally I am the one making demands... I get bored with "vanilla" sex after a while and like to make things more exciting.

    BUT in answer I did have this girlfriend (one of my first women I slept with) and I pretty much made her cum every time we had sex as I learned quite quickly how to delay myself and pace myself etc... YEAY! But then she wanted more than one... then three... then in waves...

    I'm sorry but I thought she was lucky she could in the first place... got a little too much for me and stress!!!

    Also another girl wanted to fuck ME in the ass... she loved it that way .... for me the odd finger is fine now and then but sorry in general mine is a one way valve!

    Will that do - I could go on with more stories...
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    it freaks me out when fellas asks what i like or want him to do...........i just get very embarassed! :o or if a fella starts *ahem* helping himself along in front of me, i just want to run! :eek:
    the uniform thing never freaked me out :rolleyes: haha
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I had an ex who would demand to be *fucked* at the most inopportune moments. Sometimes it was fun and exciting but othertimes very embarrasing.

    Once we were watching a band play in a pub, in a room full of 120 ish people and she just blurted out * I want you to fuck me now* several people near us heard and spread the word as she dragged me to the toilets. I think more people were watching for us coming out again than were watching the band :o
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Karla
    An ex of mine (who can remain nameless) wanted me to pretend to be a virgin....every time. Pester, pester, pester. I had to get rid of him. Ewwww.

    Give the guy a break. Just think how hard it was for him to actually imagine that :eek:

    *runs away very very fast

    Stops to say - One of my exes walways wanted to do it in a barn, and preferred to have her friend waiting outside.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Man Of Kent


    Give the guy a break. Just think how hard it was for him to actually imagine that :eek:

    *runs away very very fast

    Stops to say - One of my exes walways wanted to do it in a barn, and preferred to have her friend waiting outside.


    LMFAO :D


    Them there are fighting words!!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by asho
    it freaks me out when fellas asks what i like or want him to do...........i just get very embarassed! :o or if a fella starts *ahem* helping himself along in front of me, i just want to run! :eek:
    the uniform thing never freaked me out :rolleyes: haha


    So how do you get what you want - are you easily pleased or something?? No offence meant...

    Dont get embarrased - just let us know what and how you want it, its mainly for your benefit plus the fact that in the majority when we are told what to do its a MAJOR turn on...

    the masturbation in front of you thing - at least that means he is comfortable with you????
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hmmm im trying to think of a situation involving me that could topple the virgin one! :eek:

    Another ex (or it might have been the same one!) insisted i ask him everytime i wanted to do something and end the sentance with "Sir " Fucked up! :p
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    The virgin thing aside, what many of the females are posting doesn't sound entirely like unreasonable demands. More like a lack of adventure.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Nah mate! In my case its an unreasonable demand for a 14 year old (at the time!) :p
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by LacyMay2k
    insisted i ask him everytime i wanted to do something and end the sentance with "Sir " Fucked up! :p

    *is guilty of this*

    It freaks my boyfriend out for the first five minutes then he gets really into it.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    quote:
    Originally posted by LacyMay2k
    insisted i ask him everytime i wanted to do something and end the sentance with "Sir " Fucked up!

    lmao! what a freak! i would laugh so hard
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    When he wants to have sex when I'm on my period. I and get rather irritated if he pushes the subject after I've already said no. I don't see why things other than intercourse can't suffice for a few days.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Lizzafins
    When he wants to have sex when I'm on my period. I and get rather irritated if he pushes the subject after I've already said no. I don't see why things other than intercourse can't suffice for a few days.
    I don't mind having sex when a girl's got her period. I don't find it at all offputting. A bit icky perhaps, but it doesn't put me off. So why don't you want sex when you're on your period???

    Mr_Wobble ;)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    My ex was a nurse a few years ago. She kept her uniform. However, she got rid of it just a couple of weeks before I met her. Doh! She did admit that she had "dressed up" in it for all her previous ex'es. Looks like I just missed out. Doh! :(

    Mr_Wobble ;)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Mr_Wobble
    I don't mind having sex when a girl's got her period. I don't find it at all offputting. A bit icky perhaps, but it doesn't put me off. So why don't you want sex when you're on your period???

    Mr_Wobble ;)

    I respect that. Everyone's different. I just don't like it. It can be messy and if I have sex on my period I sometimes get this uncomfortable irritation for a few days afterwards.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Lizzafins


    I respect that. Everyone's different. I just don't like it. It can be messy and if I have sex on my period I sometimes get this uncomfortable irritation for a few days afterwards.
    Well, if it causes problems, then that's fair enough then. :)

    Mr_Wobble ;)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Unreasonable demands ... hmmm ... well
    I don't have a boyfriend - just a kind of sex friend at the moment - we meet sometimes.
    I don't know if it's unreasonable, but he likes watching very much (well actually he enjoys watching me more than having sex i think) and he's asking me to masturbate in front of him - I'm quite shy and i don't like being watched that way.
    So far i didn't do very much because i don't feel very comfortable with that but I'm sure he won't stop asking me that question :rolleyes:
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Karla
    An ex of mine (who can remain nameless) wanted me to pretend to be a virgin....every time. Pester, pester, pester. I had to get rid of him. Ewwww.

    Sounds like a good excuse to be crap in bed! ;)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    So nobody can beat the virgin story? Oh come on, I'm sure someone can. Anonymity guaranteed.

    The names will be changed to protect the guilty and all that.


    What made you say 'NO WAY!!!!'
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Unreasonable demands? hmmm....*thinks


    the only time I was really shocked during sex was when my ex suddenly screamed at me 'F*CKING BITE ME!!!!'

    It's not really unreasonable as such, but it gave me the shock of my life!
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