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Peer pressure

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Should you have sex because your friends are?
What kind of things have your friends said to you?

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'll be first to reply then,

    15 / M

    you should have sex when your ready, i don't see much need to do it before your friends

    No one has said anything, one or two have said thay have girlfriends that are like 3 years older than them and their all serious relationships, but i found out they were lying

    ego contemno populus, tam ego caveo populu <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.ukobservers.net/cwm/cwm/cwm/piss.gif"&gt;

    [This message has been edited by Psychotic GORILLA (edited 05-09-2001).]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i'm 17/m. all my friends are shagging like rabbits. they dont go on about it too much, coz they know its not fair on those of us who are single or virgins (or both, like me). i dont want to rush in to anything, and i'd way rather wait until i find the right girl, and we've settled in to a committed relationship. i feel no pressure about it, but i guess that if i havent had sex before i go to uni, then i might get a bit more stressed about it. but for now, no sweat <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    Nolite te bastardes carborundorum
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I don't think u should have sex coz ur mates are, u should have sex because u want 2 & feel ready & comfortable.

    None of my mates have really said ne thing 2 me as most of them are virgins although sum of them who know i've slept wit my bf have asked me questions like 'Did it hurt?' etc.

    I'm 16/f btw <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    you definitely shouldnt have sex becuase your friends do, you should wait till you're ready and preferably in a loving relationship.

    i was one of the first actually to have sex in my group of friends.... me and my other friend who had serious boyfriends did, she did before me and we were talking about it loads, usually with code so we could talk in front of other people and not be embarrassed! just questions like did it hurt, what was it like... i have to admit we did go into specifics a bit!

    we havent really talked about it to our other friends, a lot of them dont really seem interested in having a relationship at all and they just kinda rolled their eyes at us if we started talking about our bfs ever. our other friend got a long term boyfriend not too long ago and so shes joined the girlie chats in the corner now when we go places <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    oh and im still 18 if you dont remember <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

    About half my friends are virgins and half aren't, and we all think that you shouldn't rush into sex just because your friends are doing it, you should wait until you feel ready and are preferably in a loving relationship.

    I'm a virgin but no-one even mentions it let alone puts pressure on me to have sex. Once I was asked to have a threesome with my friend and her boyfriend but I said I didn't really think it was my kind of thing, and they accepted it without any problem.
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