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Why dont I orgasm?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
HI, this is my first post, my name's Kav and i'm 16. I've bin with my b/f for 7 months and i relly love him, we've not had sex but we've done everything else, which i really enjoy and im really comfortable with. Thing is, i've never had an orgasm. im totally relaxed and everything, so thats the the problem. Its not really a worry, and me and my b/f can talk about it fine, its just i'd love to orgasm as i think i must be missing out. Neither of us have had any experience with other people but its not like we're inexperienced because we've bin giving each other oral and everything for quite a while now. Any advice about what we're doing wrong would be greatly appreciated, or anyone elses sure-fire orgasm tricks. I get so turned on all the time, just never seem to actually orgasm. Thanks a lot xx

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    OK, THIS MAY SOUND A BIT FUNNY BUT JUST AND IDEA AND DON'T THINK I'M STRANGE PLS!!!!
    BUT WHY DON'T YOU TRY TOUCHING YOURSELF WITH HIM IN THE ROOM?! HE WILL GET THRILLS OF WATCHING YOUR REACH HEAVEN AND AT THE SAME TIME YOU WOULD BE REACHING HEAVEN AND LOVING IT!!!
    OR GET HIS PENIS AND STIMIULATE YOURSELF WITH IT BY HOLDING IT AND STROKE IT ON YOUR CLIT,YOU WILL LOVE THE ORGASAM AND HE WILL LOVE IT TO COZ HE WILL FEEL PROUD THAT YOU UED HIS DICK AS A SELF HELP TOOL!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I dont think you're strange!! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; i think its a good idea, but its just that i dont touch myself normally, even when im on my own...so it might be a bit strange! I LOVE the idea of rubbing his penis against me, ill try that!! Maybe i should try fingering myself in prite to get used to it...its just that it like to get used to it first! Thanks a lots for the advice!!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Salti:
    Maybe i should try fingering myself in prite to get used to it...

    That's the best thing to do, if you can't bring yourself to orgasm it's difficult for anyone else to <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    Good luck, and if you try devil's idea make sure to use a condom.
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    Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    Originally posted by wildchild:
    That's the best thing to do, if you can't bring yourself to orgasm it's difficult for anyone else to <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    well my first bf managed it before i did! i just couldnt do it to myself for ages, and he could..... i keep on breaking all the things people say lol like about sex not hurting if youve used tampons and now this! sorry im just being awkward <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

    I love deadlines. I love the whooshing noise they make as they go by.
    ~ the late, great Douglas Adams
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    try and build up the suspense... if you get abosulutely super turned on then maybe you'll orgasm. get your bf to tease you a little.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    (whohoo! over 100 posts! i'm a "crazy poster" now!)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    (woohoo! congrats amadee. keep it up)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    uh....maybe you should have him eat you...that got me the first time...plus..ur first orgasm is sposed to be the BEST one u get in ur lifetime..so..i dunno...
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by guRLiE1oo4:
    uh....maybe you should have him eat you...that got me the first time...plus..ur first orgasm is sposed to be the BEST one u get in ur lifetime..so..i dunno...

    I just wouldn't put it in those terms sounds a bit crude!!!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by guRLiE1oo4:
    uh....maybe you should have him eat you...

    Uh...... someone explain?!

    <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/confused.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I believe she means, go down on you. Oral.
    <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    (thanks calvin)

    yeah, oral sex can be absolutely amazing as long as he knows what he's doing...
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    However, four different blokes' attempts have led me to believe that practise makes perfect and it doesnt exactly come naturally to the poor things and they need to be told what to do a bit!

    Freya xx

    Have you ever confused a dream with life?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    sorrie..didn't mean to sound crude!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by freya:
    I believe she means, go down on you. Oral.
    <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    Ta freya <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Chickadee:
    Uh...... someone explain?!

    <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/confused.gif"&gt;

    she means have him lick her and some times it can also mean have his tounge up her .
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    also another idea

    why dont you try some kind of roleplay? the gets you REALLY turned on coz if your turned on you a relaxed and that may help you come easier. honey always sends me sky when my blokey licks it out of me! yumm

    also what you were saying about you fingering in private. Fingering never makes me come. but touching my clit does. however its different for different weman.

    and yes i did forget to mention but what ever you do for fucks sake make sure that if his dick dose come in contact with your vigy use a fucking CONDOM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and DON'T!!!!!! touch your self if youve just been holding yourself coz you could have sperm on you fingers and then in a couple months time you will be finking why have i got a bump!!!!! big NO NO NO NO NO !!! UNLESS YOU WANT TO BE PREGNANT.belive you me i have had a pregnancy scare and it was theworst week of my life!!!


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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by thedevilherself:
    also another idea

    why dont you try some kind of roleplay? the gets you REALLY turned on coz if your turned on you a relaxed and that may help you come easier. honey always sends me sky when my blokey licks it out of me! yumm

    also what you were saying about you fingering in private. Fingering never makes me come. but touching my clit does. however its different for different weman.

    and yes i did forget to mention but what ever you do for fucks sake make sure that if his dick dose come in contact with your vigy use a fucking CONDOM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and DON'T!!!!!! touch your self if youve just been holding yourself coz you could have sperm on you fingers and then in a couple months time you will be finking why have i got a bump!!!!! big NO NO NO NO NO !!! UNLESS YOU WANT TO BE PREGNANT.belive you me i have had a pregnancy scare and it was theworst week of my life!!!


    so i meant to say don't touch yourself if youve been holding hiz dick!!!!!!!!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thanx devil n every1 else!! I no what you mean about preg scares, my period was 2 weeks l8, and even tho i've not had sex, you cant help worryin...yaknow?! Anyway, thanx a lot for all the advice, but if any1 else has any more suggestions, im open to all ideas! lotsa luv, salti xx
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    Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    Originally posted by guRLiE1oo4:
    plus..ur first orgasm is sposed to be the BEST one u get in ur lifetime..so..i dunno...

    i wouldnt say that. i cant remember the first orgasm i had so it cant have been that different! it depends on circumstances really, the build up, etc.
    Originally posted by thedevilherself:
    Fingering never makes me come. but touching my clit does. however its different for different weman.

    me neither, i dont know why blokes who make themselves out to be all experienced and stuff dont realise that. but doesnt all of that come under the umbrella of fingering? hmmm thats what i always thought anyway.

    I love deadlines. I love the whooshing noise they make as they go by.
    ~ the late, great Douglas Adams
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