can't seem to orgasm when mastabating

Former Member

I'm 23 years old and I can't seem to orgasm when I mastabate since meeting my boyfriend 10 months ago. He lives 60 miles away, so only see each other every 2 weeks if lucky. But when we're not together I like to have.a.play but no matter what I am unable to orgasm even using my vibrator....only times I do seem to be able to is during sex or oral and even if me and my boyfriend Skype and jack off watching each other.....All I want is to orgasm when I'm not with him to unwind at night....do any other women have.this problem?

I've even tried watching porn and that doesn't help just gets me more frustrated.

Former Member

Welcome to the site boards

Sorry to hear that ;( that's must be Horrable to not be able to do something u want or trying to do. Have u tryed anything eles that u can use.

Here some links might help u

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http://www.thesite.org/sex-and-relationships/having-sex/how-to-orgasm-3920.html

Hope this helps

Former Member

Sometimes it's about just having the right setting and practice! I was in my late teens if not early 20s when I first had an orgasm whilst mastabating manually. Make sure you're relaxed, use lube if needed, and don't put pressure on yourself for it to happen. Focus on the sensations not the end result.

Former Member

Hi

I don't know if this works with women but there are things you can do to stay fertile and ensure orgasm. Hot bath before bed (not too often though), brazil nuts, staying away from alcohol if you are trying to conceive and generally not doing stressful things. Try putting some ice down there or doing other things to stimulate you. Talk to your bf and find out what turns each other on. Let him know that its probably not him, otherwise he might think you don't fancy him or he is not doing the right things.

Hope that helps