depression & children

Former Member

I suffer from depression and i would like a family. My friend thinks that im not mentally stable for a family yet and if i did fall pregnant that i should have the child adopted. would having depression ruin my chances of bringing up a child if that makes sense.

BubblesGoesBoo

not at all ... my sister had depression and she's done brilliantly at raising my nephew ... tbhonest it's even made her happier than before

Former Member

Just because you suffer from depression does not mean that your choices and goals in life should be limited. If you want a family and you feel that it's the right thing for you then don't let anybody hold you back

Former Member

I agree with the above comments, just because you suffer with depression does not mean you can't/shouldn't have children, and sometimes children can make you happier.

You say you want a child but do you feel that you are ready or stable enough to have one? How do you feel that having a child would effect you?

**helen**

Hi willowtree,

Apologies if I'm wrong but I have the feeling you're still in your teens, is that the case? If you are then the decision to have a family is perhaps one you might want to park for the time being to focus on your own development and aspirations. Having a child and family is a wonderful step - and one that certainly someone who experiences depression is capable of, and yet it's also one that is fraught with challenges, so having a clear sense of self, as well as life experience to help build your emotional strength, can really make that journey a more stable and enjoyable one.

It would be good to hear a little bit more about where you're at.

I don't know if this thread is relevant you and where you're at, but one our older posters suzycreamcheese shares some extremely wise words.