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Ok my mother and sister knows i cut its scary i dont know what todo with them knowing and every one is directing me to samaritans like i am a risk to myself why do i feel so scared
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How did your mum and sister find out?
I'm sorry you're feeling scared, can you explain what you're most scared of?
Samaritans can be great to help you explore your feelings, it might be worth a try.
You're not alone *hug*
Massive prompts of being able to explain a bit about what's going on for you at the moment. How did your mother and sister find out about your self harm? I know it's a scary thought when someone who cares about us, knows were engaging in such behaviours, and often it can be a positive step to recovery and getting the support you need and most well deserve.
You've expressed it being 'scary' do you know what your main worries are? I was afraid that my parents would take away my coping mechanisms, but often that isn't always helpful, and it's about explaining that to them, if you can. What's your relationship like with your mother and sister? Maybe you could take one to speak to your GP with you, and hopefully get referred to alternative support, like counselling.
Many people often refer people to Samaritans, it's not because that person is at risk to themselves, it's more about having a listening ear, some support to lean on, and someone to reach out to, they are a great listening service, and you can get to know more about them via their website!
If your mother and sister already know you do it, you can't really make them forget but use it at your own advantage to take on support offered, do you think you're at a risk to yourself, WillowTree?
Do keep us updated on how you get on,
Best wishes,
Angel
Sorry, I've only just seen the two above responses, often when someone who cares about us, quesions something that's abnormal to them (Scars on your arm) it will leave them worried, without doubt. Is your sister younger than you? It sounds like you've also become rather attached to your friend to, which can often be difficult on both sides, because friendships work in cycle of them not always being with us, because it's just how life works, we loose friends, but we also gain friends on the way to. Hows life at home at the moment?
It can be really hard when people find out about self harm for the first time. I imagine you feel quite uneasy about it and it's scary to have your private feelings suddenly out in the open. Big hugs *hug*
Have you seen our info on TheSite around self harm? We have a really good article on why people self harm and I wonder if it would be something you could show your mum to help her to understand? Here is the link: http://www.thesite.org/mental-health/self-harm/why-do-people-self-harm-5680.html
For you, we also have some info about telling someone that you self harm and how to deal with their reactions and your friend might find this one useful about how to support you.
Self harm can be quite shocking for some people so they may be pushing you to contact Samaritans as they're not sure how to help you and they just feel quite worried about you. The Samaritans have a text service too that you could try if you wanted to - it's 07725 909090 - you could just send a text saying 'Hi, I've not used this before but I would like to talk'. They will text back and then just see how it goes from there?
If you're feeling really on edge then you might find that distractions help to keep you going until the thoughts pass - what sort of things do you enjoy doing? There are lots of ideas here: http://www.selfinjurysupport.org.uk/files/docs/Catergories%20of%20distractions%20in%20bubbles_1.pdf
Let us know how you're doing
thats good just rember we here for u