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How to tell a new partner about abuse?
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I you've seen my thread in home and law you'll know I've just signed my statement. I'm also undergoing therapy which can make my nightmares worse. I'm not in a relationship yet, but if I found myself someone lovely I'd have to tell them about what's happened but how can I tell them in a way which would be a little easier for to digest a particularly unpalatable issue? I've told people at the wrong times in the past and freaked them out or maybe not told them enough. How do you strike a good balance, and when is a good time to tell them?
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Maybe choose a time you are both relaxed and comfortable with one another for a chat x
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I got with my ex just after I'd opened up to someone about what has happened to me.
When we were starting to really fall for each other, that's when I told him. I told him what has happened and I said it was a family member, but I didn't tell him his name. So I didn't tell my ex every single detail, just what I thought he needed to know. It wasn't easy at all and our relationship did have a bit of a wobble as he was quite upset but I think it made our relationship stronger.
It's completely up to you what you decide to tell your partner but personally I would do it before your relationship got really serious.
Look after yourself,
Best wishes,
Angel
Tell me then how you would explain flashbacks when you have sex or why you walk out of the room or demand for things to be changed over on the TV or why you won't watch films with sexual violence?