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Do I take the hint or keep trying?
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Basically I was seeing a girl for a couple of weeks, not long I know but we met most days and things were moving quickly. I then got told by my previous partner I may have an sti, but this was an evil trick she played as she was jealous so being a decent guy I told the girl I was seeing to get herself checked out too as I won't get results for a few weeks. (Turns out I had nothing) since that, I haven't seen her. She's just been really off with me and makes excuses like she's busy or going to a friends, a few days ago I asked a 3rd time to meet me and she never replied.
Friends have told me she's probably seeing someone else or I should just forget it and move on but I really like her and really want to see her again! But I don't want to keep pestering her by asking only to be knocked back, what do I do
Friends have told me she's probably seeing someone else or I should just forget it and move on but I really like her and really want to see her again! But I don't want to keep pestering her by asking only to be knocked back, what do I do
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The fact is it was only a short relationship and obviously not serious, I doubt you'll be able to repair this and by the sounds of it, she doesn't want too.
Move on bud.
Reckon it would be worth a one last all or nothing message, something along the lines of look do you want to see me again or not? That way ill know for sure rather than beating around the bush, but at same time I don't wanna annoy her any more
I have a real issue with how you have phrased this and wanted to bring it up for other potential readers. The OP did the most responsible thing possible when faced with the potential that he may have an STI - he didn't hide it, but instead was responsible and open with his current partner.
Sexual health is nothing to be ashamed about - particularly when you are looking after it - and comments like "Doesn't make you look like the caring type or a keeper" just perpetuate a negative sexual image that is far more damaging and adds to the shame surrounding sexual health. It is not on - you wouldn't say that to someone who had a cold, so why say it about an STI? Catching one is no worse (nor better) than a cold, and taking steps to keep healthy regarding your sexual health is a good thing.
OP, this girl is not dealing with you in a mature or communicative way. It sucks to not be able to get closure on this, but unfortunately that is the most likely outcome.
That explains why she stopped seeing me etc, but what I don't get is why she couldn't just be straight with me and tell me.. Instead of leaving me on tenterhooks not knowing where I stand. I'm half relieved because I know the truth but half really hurt and upset. women eh.