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making the first time less painful?
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Hi,
Me and my gf (both 22) are ready to have sex. I am not a virgin, but she is. We are having difficulty doing it for the first time as I dont want to hurt her, and she is scared of being hurt. Writing this, she has said she is ready to have sex.
Having looked it up on the internet, some peoples stories of their first time has really put her off and it is the part where it hurts that we get to and then stop.
Is there a way to make it less painful (other than horse riding)?
Any help will be greatly appreciated. Thanks.
Me and my gf (both 22) are ready to have sex. I am not a virgin, but she is. We are having difficulty doing it for the first time as I dont want to hurt her, and she is scared of being hurt. Writing this, she has said she is ready to have sex.
Having looked it up on the internet, some peoples stories of their first time has really put her off and it is the part where it hurts that we get to and then stop.
Is there a way to make it less painful (other than horse riding)?
Any help will be greatly appreciated. Thanks.
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I am sure there must be some stories online about people who have not found their first time painful. Maybe read some of those with her?
From what I can remember of mine, it was sometimes uncomfortable and a little sore afterwards, but the enjoyment totally outweighed the little bit of discomfort felt.
Here's a link to where it came from
Great to see you're going out of your way to make sure it's a positive experience for both of you.