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Pressured into sex?

Can anyone out there please help this researcher?

"Hi, my name's Tillie and I'm working on something called the sex book for the chapter on teenagers. TheSite.org have given me permission to ask you guys a few questions - answers from males and females are welcome."

The questions:
Have you ever been pressured into sex? What happened? How has this affected you?

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Not my last ex but the 2 b4 that both tried pressurizing me in2 sex.

    I'd been wit one of them a day <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/eek.gif"&gt; & i woz 15 he woz 16. We were @ his house & he asked me 2 do it wit him. When i said no he went & sulked. I found out a couple of weeks later that he had then gone out the next day & pulled sum1 else @ this under 18's club nite. I woz gutted but realised he woz only after one thing & so dumped him.

    My next bf after him woz also 16 & i woz still only 15. After a week he asked me the question about whether or not i wanted 2 sleep wit him. When i said no he seemed ok about it but our relationship slowly went downhill after & i found out he'd been cheating on me the whole time ne way.

    LOL, i've had a pretty shit time wit blokes!! But then my most recent ex wasn't pressurizing @ all & i didn't go very far wit him & my current bf wasn't/isn't @ all pressurizing. I guess i finally realised that i didn't need the guys that treated me like shit & went out & looked 4 totally different blokes.

    Thing is i'm really paranoid & find it hard 2 trust blokes now, but i get there in the end <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Nope nope and nope, never, but then again im still a young male yet to reach my prime, hehe, (13) but 1 o 2 of my friends have done the oral....

    Mr. X has been here! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.data-techniques.net/cwm/cwm/alien/beammeup.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    im female and i was 17 and my bf was 20 when he started pressuring me to have sex with him.

    when we first met and the topic first came up, he said it was ok that i didn't wanna have sex and that he will wait. i had never had sex before and i knew i wasn't ready. that was ok for him...
    but a few months on, sex became a major problem. i think it was the fact that he found out my friend was already having sex with his bestmate and they weren't even going steady! he kept saying he was 20 yrs old and what do i expect? do i not feel left out? he wanted to have something to share with me. there was a time we nearly broke up because he was fed up and said maybe im not ready for what he's ready for etc etc.
    then he apologised and we lasted another few months...he told me he really really liked me. so i guess if he was still hanging on, i must have meant something to him.

    we lasted approx 5 months when the breakup came. i knew it was building up and i got fed up and said if he wants sex he can go and get someone else to have sex with him. we fell out for a week and then we broke up.

    i knew that i was close to wanting to have sex with him. i began to have stronger feelings to him and i knew if he hung on a bit longer, i would have had sex with under my own content. but sometimes, the more he wanted sex and the more he talked about it...the more i would go against it.

    after that relationship i was hurt even though i knew a guy who wanted sex wasn't worth it. but a 5 month relationship ended in 8 mins because i wouldn't have sex with him, it was still hurtful.

    i wasn't mad at him for putting me through all that pressure and unhappiness because he was a good boyfriend to me. though he pressured me he didn't exactly try to force anything though he had many chances to. all i could say was that we both wanted different things out of the relationship, and he was right, i wasn't ready for what he was ready for. in the end to him sex was more important than me...

    the effect, i was pretty scared of having relationships because i was so hurt and i didn't wanna go there again. but now im with someone new, and i don't talk about sex which i know is pretty unhealthy coz u should always talk about it before jumping right in.
    but thinking back, me and my ex was just too comfortable talking about sex that it was too close for comfort.
    this time, i want sex to remain a bit of a distance between me and my bf...for a while at least. i don't want us ending in the same fate as me and my first boyfriend.

    virginity is like a balloon, one prick & it's gone 4ever.
    sex is like a tub of pringles, once you pop, you can't stop.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    With my last gf I felt like I had to do it to stay with her so I did and it sucked cos I just really wasn`t in to it (do I sound male!) but seriously men can be pressured into it aswell so its not just women.
    I don`t place any particular importance on virgnity but I would`ve liked my first time to actually be slightly enjoyable.

    BTW, is this gonna be an online book or printed?

    "Honesty is just an excuse for lack of imagination."
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