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Feelings for a friend
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This person is more than a friend - I help him out with a few projects and stuff. We met on a dating website, but he asked me to help with these projects instead of dating. We have a 10 year age difference, but we get on brilliantly, we talk every day and he comes over and sees me several times a week. But its that age old thing of "will it spoil our friendship" blah blah blah. He's been giving me mixed messages, a mutual friend spotted it and meantioned it, and I said I wasn't sure if they were or not. I've also for the first time in my life I've managed to play it cool, I've not been flirting with him wildly or anything. Although the amount we hang out together it has been asked if we're a couple on a good few occasions.
I love him to bits as a friend, and although I'd love it even more if there was more between us, I don't think I could bare losing him as a friend. But what do I do, keep buring my head? Find someone else to take my mind off of it, or just grin and bare it?
I love him to bits as a friend, and although I'd love it even more if there was more between us, I don't think I could bare losing him as a friend. But what do I do, keep buring my head? Find someone else to take my mind off of it, or just grin and bare it?
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If one of my friends was like that, and I didn't feel the same way, I'd only be concerned about them and want to help them out of it. But if I felt the same way, hell yeah, dive in! :yes:
A few years ago, I told one of my friends that I liked him and this is pretty much what happened. He said thanks; but he doesn't want another LDR and that we should talk. We sort of did; but I think he was doing that more to see how I was.
No idea how to even broach the subject though!
He doesn't know how you feel about him, and you say if you talk to him you might find out he isn't interested in you.. But what if he does like you? What if he gets serious with someone else and then finds out you liked him but can't do anything about it because it's too late? You might regret not telling him.
Whatever happens we're all here to help you through it.
Else he's trying to make you jealous Anyway, it sounded quite sweet what you were planning to give him for while he's away
blah blah blah fine! I'll move but right now i don't want to speak to him. i'm a bit hurt tbh.
It's always hard when someone doesn't want what we do, and it seems like you did a lot for him, helping with projects, sending him a survival kit, being there for him etc. And it also seems like he sometimes gave you mixed messages.
The good thing is that at least you know now, and you can focus on finding someone who'll appreciate you :yes: