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Is it worth going back to basics and writing down everything that you will need to do between now and when you move? Then you can tick things off as you have done them which might help make you feel more in control of the situation/what to expect?
In terms of being scared - I can only say that is perfectly normal/understandable and I would imagine the adrenaline will help you get through the short-term. Have you considered talking to someone who currently works for the company/in your new role or similar role and asked about their experience of working for the company/what to expect, that sort of thing? And maybe ask the new company if you could spend a day with them to get a "feel" for what you will be expected to do, etc?
Sorry if this is all useless advice...I was a mess when I was offered a new job/resigned from my old one and then decided not to do it lol!
Job wise, I'm probably making a fuss over nothing. It's the same company I work for currently, just a new role with a different part of the business at a different location. I've worked at the office I'm going to before, so know a few people around the place but there are >1000 people there so don't know any of my new team.
Looking forward to it overall - but going to be a bit of a nightmare in the short term.
Glad we agree on the ice cream!
Something that we often tell our colleagues who have been given promotion; when you are promoted its of advantage to work with people you don't know because you can make the step change into the higher level role without having to constantly fight against peoples perception of you in a more junior role I appreciate its still scary though!
You have just given me some truly excellent advice. Something I hadn't thought of previously that has acted as a massive reassurance as to the benefits of moving to something completely new in starting my new role rather than staying where I've got the background knowledge.
Big hugs. Hope you got some sleep last night. Fresh eyes onto today?
Glad it was of some help/reassurance
The weight thing is still a massive issue and is really bugging me...other than that I had 9 hours sleep and am seeing Despicable Me 2 tonight so have some motivation to keep going with the essay - I did 1000 words in the end yesterday but still not certain on what I've written...
Sounds like you're making good progress on the essay. If you get something down - then you've got something to edit and work with which is always a better place to be in than having to face the blank document.
It's awesome, ideal for a total switch-off from revision
Just 'cos.
SM - I will let you know what its like
A friend also text me this evening. This time last year I had a meltdown in front of her and said I couldnt cope. She put a reminder in her phone to ask me how things were a year later. What am I supposed to say when everyone just expects things to be perfect? I'm such a failure and in 6 days time, it would have been 18 mnths since I made the biggest mistake of my life and failed him when he most needed help. I should just disappear because it wouldnt matter to anyone.
You are definitely not a failure. You've achieved a massive amount in the last year. Hugely so. Surprise, Surprise, you haven't managed to magic up a completely perfect life in 365 days - but then unfortunately I believe you are actually only human. So that wasn't really ever going to happen.
By the sounds of everything you've said over the while on here, your dad was ill, really ill. Given the problems he was evidently having with his mental health, you could never have fixed everything. You might think that on one particular day you could have done something slightly differently, but may well have only changed the timings rather than the overall plot. It's hard to understand, and my uncle was a different story to your dad but I think there are probably some similarities. My granma put a note on one of the funeral flowers 'Plain sailing from now on'. It's really difficult for everyone who's left behind, but at least for your dad everything else is simpler now.
Anniversaries are hard - but you will get to one you don't notice nearly so much. Look at what you've achieved so far. Got offered a job, moved house, calmed me down over my job panic.
You're one impressive young lady.
xx
I second that.
Don't disappear because it would matter.
Everyone might expect things to be perfect, but that's their opinion. If they have never been through what you have how can they understand how it feels? And even if the have, we all suffer differently, and it can take years to get back to some normality. It's not the same but something that happened when I was a kid affected me for years. It was only in the past 3 or 4 years that the incident was made less distressing -with help from my counselor.
Don't worry about what they expect, if you're not happy you don't have to pretend to be just for everyone else. Take your time getting sorted, go at your own pace. -I just wanted you to know that.
Hope you are feeling a bit better today. xx
Had an awful day. Lost it at work and threatened to quit...which wasnt out of the blue...I had a run in with a manager who was threatening/intimidating me. I hate my Dad for the fact he took the easy way out and has left me feeling how he was. I've gone from being hysterical to being angry to having a panic attack and back to teary in about 10 hours today!
I know its all stupid and i know i sound pathetic but just cant deal with any of this anymore.
Keep posting it could help. Do you have anyone around you?
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" So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
'' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "
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" So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
'' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "
Not really. 12 hours I worked...had 2 panic attacks, been back and forth between tearful and angry...still not finished my 2nd essay. Im just not in a good place!
Always here, I am gonna pm you now x
" So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
'' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "
Having plans to go away could help you, stay focused I guess.
" So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
'' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "
You have worked incredibly hard and through immensely difficult stress. Your manager will realise this - and as it's now today I hope hasn't done too badly? She'll understand that priorities change. Perhaps you can tell her what parts of the experience you've enjoyed and perhaps this will inform your further working experience?
:yes: They will almost certainly be able to do something about that. You shouldn't have been shut out of VLE whilst working on coursework, either, that's not on.
I know your tutor doesn't have a track record for being the most responsive in the world, but this is probably a good time to drop them a note. Attach your essay in the state it's currently in to show how far you've got with it and how much work has gone into something that they've since changed the requirements on.
Do you have a students union of some kind? Getting in touch with them might be useful as well.
Look at how much you've achieved. If the store manager is pleased then they can back you up if required to your manager. Sounds like you've had some pretty high praise. And if you';ve liked the work then that's great - one to put on the list of aims for the future once you get some breathing space.
Will reply properly later xx