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What comes after the honeymoon period?
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So the Daily Mail are saying that:
What do you think? Sex every day in the honeymoon period?
What happens after the honeymoon period? Does it really matter how much sex you have?
Full article here
So the Daily Mail are saying that:
- Around 40% of couples who have been together for four years only have sex a few times a month
- Of those who have been together for 15 years, 15 per cent only have sex a few times a year
Researchers found that in the first 12 month 'honeymoon' period 15 per cent of couples have sex every day, compared to just 5 per cent of other couples.
What do you think? Sex every day in the honeymoon period?
What happens after the honeymoon period? Does it really matter how much sex you have?
Full article here
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It would be better not to have so idealistic view of marriage. Don't expect love,sex,romance and excitement all the time. People have to work on their relationship and make it work.
I've split up from him now, we didn't have sex that much towards the end so I dread to think what it'd be like after 20 years together!
Morning sickness
And then after another year or two, you're back to having sex every day as you're "trying for a baby".
*hug* does there seem to be a pattern to this, or do you feel it's been pretty different in each relationship?
Few interesting points..
Arctic - 'you have other hobbies other than sex' - do you think after a while people start to do their own thing again a bit more? I've often seen that lead to arguments.. it's a tricky adjustment sometimes..
MissRiot - you mentioned feeling disempowerd.. power struggles often happen after the honeymoon period - I wonder how you could prevent this from happening in the future?
Vipsa - you mentioned working at relatioships - how much is a good amount of work do you think before it's too much. What sort of things do you do to work at a relationship?
Be interested to hear your thoughts :chin:
I live with my partner of about 8 years or so keeping things separate keeps us both happy. He has his friends, I have mine, we very rarely ever mix. He has his hobbies, I have my hobbies. He has his tv show, me, mine (though I have convinced him to come to the darkside of cartoons). Nobody has to "ask" if they can go out (though I do ask for common curtousy of mentioning if you have plans in advance in case I had a dinner already started). He has man date nights, I have lady nights, we don't have to consult eachother. I've gotten into many o conversations about this, especially at bars when some of my friends have found companions for the night.
You're boyfriend doesn't mind you're out? You didn't even ask him? You don't know what he is doing tonight? No, and I'd leave the person in a heartbeat who dared tried to do it any other way!
As for the lack of sex - I think the post honeymoon comfortable stage plays a big roll. Nothing dries up a lady like continually finding nail clippings on the night stand and q-tips that have missed the bin
I agree with Manda too. You do settle into a routine, you do go back to associating with your own friends, arguments about the laundry do get in the way. But I also agree with Glenn, in a strong relationship it isn't an issue, you reach a balance you love.