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Threesome? Foursome?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
I've been wanting to have a 3some with my girlfriend and another guy for some time now. I don't want to do anything with the guy, I just want to watch her being shagged by this guy (who I know she's been with before...)

The idea of both of them at it, really turns me on and afterwards it'd be my go!

Thing is, I've had another thought of how another guy could join us, and me and him could get tossed off while the other guy shags her, so she's surrounded by the three of us! Wicked... Or at least that's what I think!...

Could you tell me what you guys think of group sex, or threesomes etc?

Have you done it? What was it like? Would you do it again? Help! Advice needed here...
(My g/f has said she's do it)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well, I'm not a guy, but I've already had a threesome m/f/f/.
    Well actually I did nothing with the other girl (she's my best mate, we're both straight and not intersted in women) and it was only me which had sex with the guy. I think he really enjoyed it to have the attention of two girls (and he said he has been waiting for this for 29 years, so I'm very proud I made his dream come true :D).
    I think I'd prefer a threesome m/m/f, but it seems this is not so easy to get, because most of the guys like the girl(s) for themself and don't want to share it.
    So I was a little bit surprised you want a three or foursome with just one woman :D I just can say I would envy your girlfriend ;)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    To share a girl with 1 or more other guy(s) is my biggest fantasy. Im totally straight so no chance of M/M.

    Why? because I just imagine it must be wonderful for the girl and the thought /image of a girl being pleased by more than 1 guy is just a huge turn on. Plus if my perception is correct the girl would be immensly turned on which would only make things even better for the guys.:) :D

    Doubt it`ll ever happen though:(
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think I live in the wrong country - stupid boring German guys :(
    btw the guy I had a threesome with was English :D
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hmmmm ... I find the idea of a F/M/M situation far more interesting than a F/F/M one. Yes, count me in if anyone arranges anything ... :D
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hada m/m/f threesome only once way back in the days just after university with two of my closest friends who were in the mood for some habitual sex even though they had broken up prior to that event.

    I can attest that it WAS even more thrilling for her having two rock hard guys to service her front and back. Me and my buddy are both straight so we just concentrated on her and she was thoroughly satisfied from what he or I could tell.

    This isnt something id advise people to go into lightly though. In many cases there may well be jealousy issues and insecurity between the guys involved, especially if one or the other guy is dating the girl at the time.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'd also love to see my girl in action with a couple of fit lads.
    It took me years to pluck up the courage to ask her and now she's agreed, we're gonna do it in a couple of weeks so i'll let u know how it went!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I've had a 3 some, twice in my past, when I was single.
    But in my case it was M/M/M !:)

    Once with 2 English lads, & once with 2 French lads.
    Each time the other 2 were in a partnership, but I got the impression they did it often, & it didn't get in the way of their respective partnerships. They just did it for the fun.

    I enjoyed alot, very hot with 3 naked guys each time.

    Now I'm in an LTR, I don't think about, or need it. But sometimes me & my partner talk about doing it in a joking manner. So we may one day, depends on the situation.

    Would have to be carefull, & probably wouldn't do it with someone we knew or were mates with. It would just be sex for the fun of it, with a stranger & as far as I was concerned the more the merrier. Wouldn't want to meet them again.

    So 3,4,5, dont mind, just one big orgy must be very hot !:D
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    As long as everyone concerned is happy and comfortable with the situation, be it a 3some or full blown orgy, I don't see the problem.

    But beware, my mum's cousin's marriage ended because of a 3some (f/f/m). Not because the experience did her head in, but because she realised she preferred sex with women and so became a lesbian. I had to feel sorry for her husband.

    I have to admit to thinking about these things and who knows, one day, given the right circumstances, I may just give it a go.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I've tried M/M/F, F/F/M, M/M/F/F, and orgies(although with very little actual intercourse). The M/M/F was ok but a bit weird. My buddy in college had a real sexual girl friend. She was known to have 7 orgasms in one session. Anyway he came to me and said they had decided to do 2 on 1 and I was the only guy they were really comforatable with. It was fun but I felt kinda strange having sex with his girlfriend with him watching. We did it another time to and in the morning she got out the lotion and laid in between us and got us both off with her hands which was kinda fun. Anyway, this was in no comparison to the G/G/and me situation. I think alot of people should at least try it once. The problem is finding the right people and getting past the communication barrier. Plus the older I get, the smaller my social life gets which makes it hard.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Angie
    But beware, my mum's cousin's marriage ended because of a 3some (f/f/m). Not because the experience did her head in, but because she realised she preferred sex with women and so became a lesbian. I had to feel sorry for her husband.

    Why feel sorry for the husband? He's probably the one who pushed her into it in the first place.

    You should feel happy for HER - she obviously had some repressed gay tendencies that her experience helped her to discover. She's the one that probably feels truly liberated ... :)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Teagan


    Why feel sorry for the husband? He's probably the one who pushed her into it in the first place.

    You should feel happy for HER - she obviously had some repressed gay tendencies that her experience helped her to discover. She's the one that probably feels truly liberated ... :)


    She wasn't pushed into it. She wanted to try too. I feel sorry for him because his marriage ended and that's never nice, whatever the circumstances.

    She's been liberated as you say (and as she puts it) since the mid-70's and has never looked back. So yes, it's been great for her.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i think id prefer sumit like m/f/f/f/f hehe
    the idea of two guys doesnt really really appeal to me but i might one day be persuaded.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by rockerchick
    i think id prefer sumit like m/f/f/f/f hehe

    So would you get it on with the other girls ????????
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by zonecrew
    I'd also love to see my girl in action with a couple of fit lads.
    It took me years to pluck up the courage to ask her and now she's agreed, we're gonna do it in a couple of weeks so i'll let u know how it went!

    Please do!!!

    *muttering* "lucky, lucky, bastard"
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    To Morgenstern...

    Sounds like I'm in the wrong country ! - I should get myself to Germany... I just haven't found any girl who is as broadminded as you (or some others) in England...

    Anyone else: Am I even looking in the right place?
    How does a threesome/orgy get together?

    Man, this is stupid - I don't even know how to go about getting what I want!!

    How did it happen for everyone else?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well in the company of people you know well it might just be proposed one day. If you want to hunt for that kind of thing then you should do a google search for swinger clubs or forums. There is something for every taste on the web, just have to look for it.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Sounds like I'm in the wrong country ! - I should get myself to Germany...
    I don't know if there are so many girl thinking like me here in Germany. Unfortunately I'm very shy when I first talk to someone. All the guys I've ever had, said I'm more than I look like - I seem to be a little angle but I'm not :D

    Our threesome was definitely not planed.
    I went to a Pub with a mate and we met a guy there I've slept with about 3 times before - just a sexual relationship. My mate didn't know him before. He was lamenting that he has a pain in the back and need a massage with four hands ;) and after about 2 hours he was asking if he could come with us. I thought - why not. And my mate was thinking - Ok you can have your fun and I'll sleep outside of your room (she doesn't live in my city and she sometimes stays overnight at my flat). But somehow he succeeded in persuading her to join us. I'd never thought she would do this. But I’m glad she did it. It was really a good experience. I don't know if something like this will ever happen again :(
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    My thoughts (I'm a guy)...

    If I was in a relationship with a girl, I'd only do m/f/f, I wouldn't want any other guy doing anything with my g/f. That's something I'd really love to do, the same as most guys I guess.

    With strangers/one night stand - hell, I'd do just about anything. M/m/f is something I'd love to do...I know this is straight out of a porn film, but one thing I'd love is a double facial on the girl. I'd do any amount of numbers as long as there was at least one girl.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I used to have this fantasy.

    Two blokes their only aim my pleasure.

    As it turned out I had twice the work pleasuring them.

    Still some jobs are worth doing ;)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    My current girlfriend brought the subject up a few weeks ago, to either test the waters, or see how serious I was about her perhaps. Said she likes seeing white and black skin together as it makes a facinating contrast. Asked me a couple of times about whether I'd been with a black girl, or if I would like to. Knowing my luck she was just seeing about the possibility of her going with a black guy. :(

    Mr_Wobble ;)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Re: To Morgenstern...
    Originally posted by Funkman
    Sounds like I'm in the wrong country ! - I should get myself to Germany... I just haven't found any girl who is as broadminded as you (or some others) in England...

    Anyone else: Am I even looking in the right place?
    How does a threesome/orgy get together?

    Man, this is stupid - I don't even know how to go about getting what I want!!

    How did it happen for everyone else?

    Theres several ways you can try and make it happen.

    Firstly, if your trying to get a g/f to take part it might take some time, it took me 7 years to get to the point of us wanting to do it. It might take you less time. Alternatively you could try and 'pull' a girl on the town with a mate (or if your real lucky you could end up with a M/F/F)

    There is another alternative. There are several free internet websites that are specifically for arranging stuff like this and loads of Yahoo Groups, i'll pm you the urls if you pm me.
    As a single bloke it'll be far harder to contact others than being a couple or a single lady but it's possible. Obviously there are risks involved meeting this way so be careful but we've found that most people are genuine
    Just one other thought, have you considered a swingers club, you'll find one in most UK cities?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I have had 2, 3somes one was with a couple i met when i lived in corfu (M/F) and the other was with two blokes.

    I have to say i enoyed the one with two blokes more as they were both really fit and I loved all the attention they gave me and each other.
    I don't know if i would have a 3some with my boyfriend and another bloke/girl though as i think i could ruin the relationship, as im the sort or person who would get jealous watching him with someone else and would think about it all the time. If you feel your relationship is strong enough to cope with the after effects then i would say go for it, it's a cool experience and you and your girlfriend will love it!;)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Y u wana c ur chick wiv another bloke?

    Wot if she decides hes a better shag n fucks u off?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by JoeJob
    Y u wana c ur chick wiv another bloke?

    Wot if she decides hes a better shag n fucks u off?

    Exactly thats how I would feel if it was me!:rolleyes:
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by JoeJob
    Y u wana c ur chick wiv another bloke?

    Wot if she decides hes a better shag n fucks u off?

    Thats why you need to love each other and trust each other enough to be able to cope with it and view the sex as a bit of fun and not get emotionally involved
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by JoeJob
    Y u wana c ur chick wiv another bloke?

    Wot if she decides hes a better shag n fucks u off?


    I think that's unlikely, unless like my mum's cousin you realise you're gay as a result of experimenting this way.

    People who swing, or whatever you want to call it, are not looking for new partners. They're happy with their emotional relationship and are looking for sexual thrills.

    If I did have group sex of any sort, I would make sure my partner and I had discussed any concerns and addressed this sort of issue. The whole situation would make the fucking more intense anyway I should imagine. So it may see that you're enjoying the sex more than usual. It's not going to feel how it feels when you're at home in bed, with your partner of however many years. Also, theres that feeling of fucking someone for the first time. It's always good I think.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'm sorry, I REALLY do not understand the urge to see your girlfriend being shagged by another man. Watching the woman you supposedly love having sex with a diffferent guy would be my personal hell !, Would you think it is ok if she had sex with another guy when you weren't there ? Whats the difference ? In my opinion it is showing a complete and utter disrespect for your partner and reducing your relationship to nothing more than a sexual convenience. I cannot imagine how it would feel the next day, or when you made love the next time. Mabye I'm too old fashoned but I really cannot understand this fanticy.
    I CAN however understand and see the erotic eliment of a threesome between three single people who want to experience consenting sexual pleasure, This is a healthy fanticy and who wouldn't want that ?
    Don't bother jumping all over me about this please, It's a forum for opinions and this is mine.
    Cheers.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    As you say, that's your opinion and it's to be respected. :)

    My opinion is that I don't see the difference between singles and couples though if both people are up for it.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think opinions can change. Its probably.......no in fact it IS my biggest fantasy to have a MMF 3some (no M/M though!)

    But theres no way I could share my gf with another man. Other people Ive had relationships with would have been no problem and infact it nearly happened with my ex wife when we were married. Id have no problem helping another couple make their fantasy reality either, but to see my gf with another man (or woman) is a no no.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I agree. I don't think I'd enjoy a 3some with another bloke though. Would seem a bit strange - not for any homophobic tendencies, it would just be difficult to concentrate and really let yourself go with someone else there watching you.

    Having said that, a threesome with another girl I could very much enjoy. I realise that's contradicting my above point somewhat, but it's my fantasy, so you can all bugger off!

    Don't think my girlfriend would e up for it though, and I'm really not bothered. If it happened great, but it's not even something I'd suggest to be honest.
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