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Fallen in love with the idea....but the person?
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I have posted before (some of you may remember) about this one particular guy who has been an absolutely amazing friend and I was unsure on whether it was more...well...I've been thinking...a lot! So basically this is the story;
Not long after I posted about the fact I definitely liked him and more than just a friend, he started being all weird and distant. I hadn't said or done anything differently so I don't know how coincidental the two things are? So, I guess I quickly got over the idea that nothing would happen....only recently we are on really good terms again, only it just seems to be as friends.
Do I really, really like him? I don't know! (Honest answer!) I have this weird ideology that he really would make the perfect husband...I know perfect doesn't exist but perfect for an imperfect world type thing. And I could really imagine myself settled down with him in the very long term (I'm talking 10-15 years!) and having a family with him. We would both be successful career wise but my career would fit around having children....ok, so for someone who insisted she would never have kids, I am getting slightly broodier, the older I get!
On reflection and even typing this I know I sound like some deluded teenager with some perfect fairytale lifestyle all planned...I know life doesn't work like that and I know this is never really likely to happen...but I think I've kind of fallen in love with the idea...and I would love a relationship with this one individual; however, I don't think it is reciprocated.
I don't know if I'm really asking for advice or just having a bit of a ramble...I guess I just feel like it's not normal to feel like this!? People have hinted that a lot of successful relationships have started as close friendships but I don't know...I'm just a little confused!
Not long after I posted about the fact I definitely liked him and more than just a friend, he started being all weird and distant. I hadn't said or done anything differently so I don't know how coincidental the two things are? So, I guess I quickly got over the idea that nothing would happen....only recently we are on really good terms again, only it just seems to be as friends.
Do I really, really like him? I don't know! (Honest answer!) I have this weird ideology that he really would make the perfect husband...I know perfect doesn't exist but perfect for an imperfect world type thing. And I could really imagine myself settled down with him in the very long term (I'm talking 10-15 years!) and having a family with him. We would both be successful career wise but my career would fit around having children....ok, so for someone who insisted she would never have kids, I am getting slightly broodier, the older I get!
On reflection and even typing this I know I sound like some deluded teenager with some perfect fairytale lifestyle all planned...I know life doesn't work like that and I know this is never really likely to happen...but I think I've kind of fallen in love with the idea...and I would love a relationship with this one individual; however, I don't think it is reciprocated.
I don't know if I'm really asking for advice or just having a bit of a ramble...I guess I just feel like it's not normal to feel like this!? People have hinted that a lot of successful relationships have started as close friendships but I don't know...I'm just a little confused!
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