moving into my own place

Former Member

hi, tomorrow 24/05/13 i will be signing the papers and everything for my new place, i just wanna know what its like living on ur own as i have never been on my own at all. if any of you have been the same but now living on ur own can u tell me how u got over it please,
thanks in advance xxx

**helen**

Hey MrsM, Have just realised you put this thread up before tonight's chat. It sounds like you're worried you might not be ready for this move - did you want to talk about some of the concerns you have? Moving out for the first time can be daunting - so getting some reassurance about some fo the specifics might be helpful?

Former Member

Hey - Until I moved in with my flatmates 6 months ago, I'd lived completely alone since leaving home 6 years ago. It can be daunting, but its an experience I wouldnt trade.
What is it that concerns you?
Feel free to message me any time, but for now, try to be excited for the new house!

Indrid Cold

Is there anyone who could stay with you for a few days and give you some day-to-day advice?

Former Member

**helen** wrote: »

Hey MrsM, Have just realised you put this thread up before tonight's chat. It sounds like you're worried you might not be ready for this move - did you want to talk about some of the concerns you have? Moving out for the first time can be daunting - so getting some reassurance about some fo the specifics might be helpful?

its just everything about it being on my own being away from my mum, when i OD i wont have anyone with me or if i S/H i wont have anyone there to help me if i go to far.

Former Member

Indrid Cold wrote: »

Is there anyone who could stay with you for a few days and give you some day-to-day advice?

no i dont have anyone

Former Member

Nikkki* wrote: »

Hey - Until I moved in with my flatmates 6 months ago, I'd lived completely alone since leaving home 6 years ago. It can be daunting, but its an experience I wouldnt trade.
What is it that concerns you?
Feel free to message me any time, but for now, try to be excited for the new house!

its just everything about it ive never been away from my mum before as im a bit of a mummies girl lol. i want to be excited but i cant

Former Member

Why have you moved?

Former Member

Fiend_85 wrote: »

Why have you moved?

Coz im being made homeless. X

Former Member

By who?

Former Member

Fiend_85 wrote: »

By who?

My mum.

Former Member

You're a mummies girl but your mum has kicked you out? I'm sorry, I'm just confused, if you don't want to talk about it that's fine.

Indrid Cold

To answer your question: To be honest, I just do more or less the same things I did when I didn't live on my own. Plus things like cleaning around and stuff, which I didn't really do before.

Former Member

Hi there and thanks for starting this thread about moving into your own place.

Did you make it to the chat on Thursday as Helen mentioned? No worries if you didn't as you can always get support and reassurance from the boards too or you can join the next chat.

In terms of your specific query, it seems like you are worried about moving into your place on your own because there won't be someone there if you overdose or self-harm (please let me know if I've got those abbreviations wrong).

I understand from your response to Indrid Cold's post that you don't have anyone that can stay with you for a few days.

Maybe you could arrange for someone to call you a few times a day at specific times. This way, if they don't speak to you then they know something might be wrong and maybe they could come round to check you're OK. I think you would need to constantly review this, as your life won't always run at the same schedule. However, at the beginning, it might be a good safety measure.

An alternative would be that you phone the other person a few times a day to let them know you're OK or you could use email. Whatever you are comfortable with.

On theSite we have articles about overdosing (http://www.thesite.org/drinkanddrugs/drugsafety/addiction/overdosing) and self-harm (http://www.thesite.org/healthandwellbeing/mentalhealth/selfharm) which you might want to have a look at to get to the deeper root of the stress you are facing about living on your own.

Also, have you seen theSite's articles about moving into your own place - http://www.thesite.org/homelawandmoney/home/yourplace
Most of the articles are more about practical things ? but thought I?d point them out to you anyway as they might help.

You could also post a thread in the 'Health and Well Being' or 'Drink and Drugs' sections of the forum to get more specific support about the specific issues you mention in your posts in this thread.

Former Member

L1ttleOne wrote: »

Hi there and thanks for starting this thread about moving into your own place.

Did you make it to the chat on Thursday as Helen mentioned? No worries if you didn?t as you can always get support and reassurance from the boards too or you can join the next chat.

In terms of your specific query, it seems like you are worried about moving into your place on your own because there won?t be someone there if you overdose or self-harm (please let me know if I?ve got those abbreviations wrong).

I understand from your response to Indrid Cold?s post that you don?t have anyone that can stay with you for a few days.

Maybe you could arrange for someone to call you a few times a day at specific times. This way, if they don?t speak to you then they know something might be wrong and maybe they could come round to check you?re OK. I think you would need to constantly review this, as your life won?t always run at the same schedule. However, at the beginning, it might be a good safety measure.

An alternative would be that you phone the other person a few times a day to let them know you?re OK or you could use email. Whatever you are comfortable with.

On theSite we have articles about overdosing (http://www.thesite.org/drinkanddrugs/drugsafety/addiction/overdosing) and self-harm (http://www.thesite.org/healthandwellbeing/mentalhealth/selfharm) which you might want to have a look at to get to the deeper root of the stress you are facing about living on your own.

Also, have you seen theSite?s articles about moving into your own place - http://www.thesite.org/homelawandmoney/home/yourplace
Most of the articles are more about practical things ? but thought I?d point them out to you anyway as they might help.

You could also post a thread in the ?Health and Well Being? or ?Drink and Drugs? sections of the forum to get more specific support about the specific issues you mention in your posts in this thread.

i would get someone to ring me or whatever but i dont have anyone thats the thing, yeah you got the abbreviations right, i just gotta accept that if i go too far with it i wont have help,

Former Member

after few months passing, I would love to hear about your experience since I'm going to move to my own place next month. I'm sure it is great because I have a good feeling about it.