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Housemate unwell - what to do?
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Those of you that read my posts are probably aware of me complaining about my housemate. Well, one of my other housemates has just had a word with me and told me that this weekend while I was away he was acting really strange. He was running around naked after an argument with another housemate and then went into his room and was really low and quite moody for the rest of the day. At the moment he's wondering around in a bra and pants and talking strange and smoking in the house (he doesn't smoke usually). He seems to have massive ups and downs, one day he'll be whooping and cheering and running around really hyper and telling everyone he loves them, some days we'll hardly see him and he'll just hide away in his room. He also has a hocking twitch that he does pretty much all the time (the hocking before you spit thing). And sometimes he just generally seems really jumpy and twitchy. I also frequently hear loud banging coming from his room like he's throwing stuff about (I live in the room next to him). At first we just thought he was on steroids or something as he's a big guy and goes to the gym a lot, but it's getting a bit weird now. We're not sure if he's taking drugs on his nights out (which are usually several times a week) and just on massive highs and downers or if it's something more. I've also noticed that he doesn't seem to like being alone and needs constant stimulation, he either always has his gf over (if they're together) his mates, or he's talking on the phone - usually really loudly having an argument or really loudly and excited about something. It's rare that I don't hear anything when he's in.
Basically, we don't know what to do. My housemate says if it happens again and he goes a bit crazy he wants to call an ambulance, but he won't be sectioned unless he's a danger to himself. Which he doesn't seem to be, he's just acting very strange and his character seems to change really dramatically. So they'll send him back and he's likely to get angry at us for reporting it. So....yeah, what do we do?
Basically, we don't know what to do. My housemate says if it happens again and he goes a bit crazy he wants to call an ambulance, but he won't be sectioned unless he's a danger to himself. Which he doesn't seem to be, he's just acting very strange and his character seems to change really dramatically. So they'll send him back and he's likely to get angry at us for reporting it. So....yeah, what do we do?
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From what you've said, it could either be drugs or mental health- I'm unsure. I know from experience that when on stimulant drugs (coke, meow, MD etc) that you need to constantly talk, move, and also the thing you said about his twitch... most people chew their lips/tongue, or move their jaw around while on stimulants. And the low periods could quite possibly be come downs, which can be utterly awful on some drugs.
What's his eating habits like? When he's hyper/active, does he eat?
Equally, it could be mental health, which if it was I think he needs professional help because it sounds like he's got worse over time? Which means he might continue to get worse.
I think the first step would be speaking to him, just ask if he's feeling okay because you're abit worried about him.
But if he's eating normally then that kind of makes me edge towards mental health, because most stimulant drugs suppress your appetite.
Either way, I think he probably needs some kind of help! Doesn't sound normal at all. Hopefully your other housemate will manage to speak to him.
Did you hear what drugs?? It sounds a bit like meth, but that's really uncommon in the UK (well, in my area anyway!)
If it becomes a real problem it might be worth talking to your landlord about it.
It's all well and good him wanting to take drugs, but if it's impacting and disrupting other people's lives that's just not on. It sounds like he's too absorbed in it to notice though!
This can't be an easy situation for you at all , but it seems like you and your housemates have handled this well. Speaking to him yet keeping your distance just in case but watching and listening is a good way to figure things out. Like you say hopefully he will move out soon and if he hasn't paid properly I imagine the landlord won't be too happy!!
These things can start feeling like your problem and its important to remember that if you ever feel unsafe, to put yourself first and try to stay with friends or family if he gets aggressive in any way. Seems like he's more annoying then dangerous at the moment though, but try to stay aware and hopefully it will stay that way.
Similarly if this really starts being a concern of safety and you feel he is becoming dangerous then it's important to speak to an authority (such as police or an appropriate adult) or/and the landlord.
Our article on dealing with someone's addiction has a few bits and pieces of advice too
Let us know how you get on :yes: