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Slagged off
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I got involved the past year with a bad egg he's a compulsive liar, steals, chests and generally treat women like %&*$#. Basically people warned me and I didn't listen he said he was single whilst sleeping with his ex and living with this woman. Which resorted in me being punched several times by the woman. She's bk with him despite him sleeping with all 3 of us same wk stealing from her and hitting her
Anyway he's been slagging me off rotten I've been told way i dress, look how bad I am in sex . He's telling this to guys in the pub I go to so how do I deal with this I'm hurt and upset he's been Slaggin me off
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Not sure any ideas?!
We have gone in circles with this several times now. We've all given advice - which basically equates to walk away and don't get involved. I'm not sure what else the OP is after and quite frankly it's frustrating when she keeps coming back saying the same thing over and over. I don't know what she's expecting us to say.
Well, personally I might consider making another friendship group if they could be so quickly turned against me.
Sometimes I think as a community we're more patient with some users than others. I've been frustrated with Jacobs girl in the past, so I'm not claiming I'm magic, just that I think that this isn't actually about this guy, it isn't about the girl she's with. It's about what's being said about Jacobs girl and how that's affecting her social life.
She slept with someone, but HE is the one that cheated, her only mistake was to trust him when he said he was single.
Maybe so. But it's frustrating when the same people keep coming back posting the same thing. But then again I'm not a very patient person. I'm sure I won't be the only one frustrated to see this going round in circles.
I just want to know how to deal with it I know I've had a lucky escape but feel they've won and I don't deserve to b slagged off
So what what people think of you? And just because he's been saying these things does it mean that anyone actually believes him or is paying attention or even cares. I think youll find that most people who hear rumours dont actually care because thats all they are, rumours. Theyve got their own lives to worry about, I doubt theyre even giving you and him another thought.
And like i said, if they are, rise above all the nasty comments, dont get drawn down to their level because that means he's actually won. You know the truth and thats all that matters.
Which part of "he's a cunt but he's going to slag you off to save face with his girlfriend, so ignore him: everyone else is" did you not understand during any of the last 76,000 posts on this subject?
Yep think its best thing to do! I just feel he's gotten away with it again. And regards arctic rolls comment the whole him slagging me off is to please her
which is exactly what arctic said
No, the issue here isn't this guy, his girlfriend, or even what's happened; it's YOUR reaction to it and YOUR inability to deal with it in a healthy way. I sense that, that comes from low esteem, however until you yourself realise this and look at addressing it then you're just going to keep repeating the same unhealthy patterns and posting the same never-ending threads on these boards.
As such I suggest that you speak to your GP about receiving some form of therapy/counselling, because until you start doing something to help yourself there's not much more anyone here can do or say to help you which hasn't already been done or said before.
Just feel like they've won or laughing
And still you're not learning......
It's a hard lesson to learn sometimes.
Jacob'sGal, who believes what this guy is saying?
I appreciate that, which is why in my previous post I had tried to give Jacobs_gal some helpful advice.
Although I'm sure you're a very good wanker
What are you actually expecting him to say?
"Hi girlfriend, yeah you're a fat old ugly bitch and Jacob's Gal was the best bang I've had in years. Fantastic rack too. Gave a great blowie."
If you're wanting that, you'll be waiting a very very long time. Do you actually think anyone gives a flying fuck what he says?
I know why he's with her as she's easy to use and he knows it! Just I got punched in the face yet he's walked off scot free taking the piss
No true but not nice all the same he has no respect for women. Just want to stand up for myself but don't know how
Some really good insight here - jacobs gal - I'm not sure you need to worry about standing up for yourself in relation to what's happened already, it's more about building your sense of self worth for the future. Here's an article on low self-esteem you may find helpful.
He's a compulsive liar so just don't like negative things said about me whilst he's swanning around as usual! I wil not touch him again too much damage done but would like to do summat to stand up to him
Long version. There is nothing you can do to stop him saying whatever he likes about you, so give up worrying about it and live your life.
That's the closest you're going to be able to get to "winning" in this situation.
Or in slightly kinder terms - letting it go. Sucking something up suggests absorption. If you let it go, you're not carrying it with you any more, you're free. If I'm being a complete hippy about it - here's a list of 40 ways to let go and feel less pain. :d