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Feel like I've lost my purpose...
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I've been caring for my parents since I was six, until the big fight in January where my mother turned around ans said I'm dead to her. that's nearly 12 years being a carer. Its all I ever really knew, I practically devoted my life to caring and helping others.
but now, Since I'm not caring anymore, I feel like I've lost my purpose, I feel like I've lost myself, and that I don't belong, fit in and aren't important anymore. Its contributing to making my moods lower, for Example I went to a carers event today for info on caring for people. I felt rubbish throught it because I'm not the carer anymore. Nobody requires me to help them feel better. Nobody needs me to do anything for them to get through the day. Nobody needs me. I'm not needed. I'm not wanted. I've lost a big part of me.
Do I envy the old me?.
but now, Since I'm not caring anymore, I feel like I've lost my purpose, I feel like I've lost myself, and that I don't belong, fit in and aren't important anymore. Its contributing to making my moods lower, for Example I went to a carers event today for info on caring for people. I felt rubbish throught it because I'm not the carer anymore. Nobody requires me to help them feel better. Nobody needs me to do anything for them to get through the day. Nobody needs me. I'm not needed. I'm not wanted. I've lost a big part of me.
Do I envy the old me?.
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Do you think maybe looking at working in the caring profession may help?
Nurse training?
Squeamishness can be got over, plus you get a bursary for it in some places.
I only got onto alevels because the woman read my results wrong, and I dropped out of alevels..
There can be a million reasons for not doing well in an exam.
Stress, pressure anxiety, overload, confidence, illness, lack of interest in that subject.
I like knowing what I'm doing in advance, I feel safe when I have routine. I don't mind the odd change but I like knowing where I stand, what's in store for me during the day.
Do you think that might be it? If that's the case settling into another routine might help.