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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
this has probably been discussed before but didn't know what to search for mods, you can shut this down if you want, it was just a query <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

guys me and a few of my friends were talkin today and we were wondering what do most guys want out of a relationship. most people seem to think it is sex but i ain't so sure, so what do you want out of a relationship <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Dunno about the other guys, but what I want out of a relationship is trust, fun, support, a good laugh, commitment, sincerity, common interests... er, yes, and a bit of loving passionate sex wouln't hurt either. <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    So, what do you want out of a relationship?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Sex is important, as it brings intimacy to the relationship!!! Buts its not the most important thing, yeah to teenie boppers it is as sex is a new thing to most of them(bar the ones who shag when they're 10, or around that age!!)

    The thing thats most important to me in a relationship is that the partner(female) must have a sense of humour and be able to take a joke about themselves!!! Also be able to talk, cos god I can talk!!!!! I hate girls that just sit and listen <IMG SRC="mad.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    If theres no laughter then am not interested!!!

    Mind you the sex factor is good <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i just want stability and a good laugh, i don't think sex is that important call me sad if you will but i would just as much love to sit on the setee and cuddle or lie there and cuddle, than have sex if i had the choice i wouldn't mind, sex is great but not all that importnant i found that out the hard way
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Posted by sexthingy:

    i found that out the hard way

    Hows that then????????? <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think the one thing I want from a relationship is a special someone who I more than a best friend and someone who I can turn too when I relly need to talk too. So Trust and sincerity plays a role in it.
    I know it sounds more like a best friend but in a relationship I care for her very very much. I different type of caring than with best friends.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Pretty much the same as what girls want...
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    originally posted by Wuckfit:
    how was that then <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    i got used by my ex after drunken sex, he took advantage of me he wasn't under the influence of anything but i was pissed out of my head. it was hard to get over. so i learned the hard way sex is not all that important.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Kathryn seems to know what she wants in a relationship, and like all the nicest people, seems to be stuck in the problem of not finding.

    Since we seem to have nice guys and nice girls on the Site, how about virtul boyfriends/girlfriends... [j/k]

    I concur with much of what Kathryn has said for what needs to be in a relationship. For me, it's most important to have trust and respect. You have to appreciate the other person for who they are. Humour, conversation, personality is essential. If I have a girlfriend, it will be because of what her mind is like, not who she looks like.

    I want to be able to think and know how she feels without her having to tell me, and to know when she's had a bad day, that she needs a hug and a film, or a cup of tea and a chat. I need to feel comfortable to cuddle, and to relax with her, but there be no pressure.

    Sex is not an issue. If it happens, it's nice; it heightens physical intimacy and can strengthen a relationship, but it isn't all, it isn't even a major part. Curious attitude for a guy, eh?

    Most of all, I think that I like to know that I'm needed and wanted - and that I can make her day better by being in it, the same as she makes mine perfect by smiling, or just being there.

    Will I find it? One thinks not..
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    well id have to have a bloke who i could chat to someone who through the most awful time cud make me smile someone who i could look at and see my life falling into one place someone who i can chat to and who doesnt care how i look or act.
    someone who knows when ive had a shitty day and knows when i need a hug ,someone who knows when im feeling down and needs a cup of tea and a chat and i spose most of all someone who couldnt give a flying monkeys about sex and when or how i give them a blow job.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I have to totally agree with DJP my view is very similar. I also want someone with a like-minded view on life and plenty of optimism - all off which I am getting at the moment <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Someone I can talk to (I`m not that good with women so I`m still waiting for this one)

    Someone who I can have a laugh with and who can take and make jokes at themselves. There's nothing worse than someone who takes themselves too seriously, they're no fun at all.

    Someone I can trust with at least some of my deeply rooted insecurities. Who I can also talk to about my thoughts etc.

    Someone who can cheer me up after a shitty day at work and who looks forward to seeing me as much as I look forward to seeing her.

    Someone who is attractive and sexy, but who respects themselves and doesn't just spread 'em for any tom, dick, and harry. And who is just as willing to spend the night cuddling up infront of the telly as they are having hot, passionate, lengthy sex.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    In a relationship I would like me and my girlfriend to love each other, trust each other. Someone to have a good laugh with and someone to be there for me if I'm down and to make me feel good again and care for me because that's exactly how I would treat my girl.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hya, Gal! Well, I know that I'm just a newcomer, but even then, just wanted to drop out a few lines 2 U.
    Well, your topic is quite appropriated, and I think that, of course sex is a great thing but...(there's always a but, ain'it?) it's DEFINETELY NOT the most important thing on a relationship! There's a whole lot of other things wich can turn u on & make u happy but sex... can't remember exactely which they are, but, well, u know it's more of a case of "long time no see", got the picture?!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    In a relationship I want someone I can trust 100%, someone who is faithful and loyal and the rest will just kind of fall into place..someone who is supportive, understanding, loving, caring etc..isn't that what everyone wants?

    Sex is a small part of it for me, even though I am a horny little bugger! But I'd give up sex if, for _once_ I could find someone who I was really truly 100% happy with and who was 100% happy with me..someone who wouldn't make me feel like shit would be a good start too!

    lol

    God knows, just someone who will be straight with me counts for a lot!

    Phil.
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