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Are boys and girls only good friends because 1 day they want to pull?
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Sum1 once told me that maybe girls and boys were only good friends because they fancied each other, but not in a strong enough way to notice. And I was thinking about it and it mite be true. If ya think about about some of the people you are close to of the opposite sex, you are best friends with the ones who are fittist or have the best personality etc.... And this means we are all very shallow and stuff, scarey........ so does anyone have really close friends who they wud not eva go out with? And do you think the theroy is true? :-s
Sum1 once told me that maybe girls and boys were only good friends because they fancied each other, but not in a strong enough way to notice. And I was thinking about it and it mite be true. If ya think about about some of the people you are close to of the opposite sex, you are best friends with the ones who are fittist or have the best personality etc.... And this means we are all very shallow and stuff, scarey........ so does anyone have really close friends who they wud not eva go out with? And do you think the theroy is true? :-s
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Yeah, I have male friends who I would never go out with. I can appreciate that they are attractive without necessarily wanting to be involved in 'that way.'
I suppose the theory could be true for some people, maybe. But no, not for all.
I don't think it would be a proper friendship, in my eyes at least, if I had an alterior motive.
Ive got female friends who, quite frankly, I wouldn't touch with a barge pole.
I've also got female friends who are fit but whom I only really think of as friends.
And then there are the not-quite-so-innocent friendships where u h8 when they talk about their boyfriends and just wished they wanted you as much as you want them.
Want a new theory? Does anyone find that they're not as close to friends of the opposite sex whom they fancy as they are to the ones they don't?
I very rarely become REALLY close friends with a bird I like, partly cos I don't want them to find out and risk ruining the friendship.
Wot do u guys think about that?
Yep, one night out I pulled a not particularly nice looking girl (I was extremely drunk at the time) and the morning after I got a nasty surprise. But she's now one of my closest friends.
Hmmm, not sure. Probably the most attractive female friend I've got is also probably my closest. I'm hoping she's got some other rather nice looking friends she hasn't yet told me about
I would agree with the fact that we choose our friends for their personalities but why would you pick a friend because they are fit?! thats the last thing that would enter my head
Originally posted by Talyn
Does anyone find that they're not as close to friends of the opposite sex whom they fancy as they are to the ones they don't?
yeah, definitely...if I have no feelings for him in that way, then I can be best buddies with them very easily
I don't have that many male friends and, ashamedly, I have pulled one of my closest - t'was a moment of weakness.