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You don't know the full story, and I've not told it, so maybe stop judging the fact it was the X-mas season, and I got given a puppy.
this has reduced in recent years because of the various animal charities campaigning to discourage people giving dogs as christmas presents.
I am not saying that people who do it are BAD PEOPLE. Im saying its hardly ever a good idea. People who do things that arent good ideas, are not by default bad people. Its still a bad idea. Good people sometimes make bad decisions. They are still good people. ts still a bad idea.
do you understand??
He's very thoughtful also, if you knew why anyway.
Have a merry shitmas.
I think you'll find that Suzy didn't actually say that. What she said was that it was a poor gift for people to give at Christmas, particularly if you haven't discussed it as you had mentioned. A dog is a huge commitment and you agreed that you couldn't look after it and gave it up, which,I think you'll find, Suzy praised you for too.
Dogs are massive commitments, which should never be given lightly. Especially puppies. Many animal rescue centres end up full of dogs in January because people gave them for Christmas willy nilly. This is a fact. You cannot deny this. That is where the phrase "a dog is for life, not just for Christmas" comes from.
Also, I think you will find it was the 2 of you that descended into insults, calling Suzy rude, not Suzy insulting you. And she didn't say anywhere that because you 'slice your arms open' you can't look after a dog. So there was no stereotyping involved. It was the complete opposite.
Therefore it wasn't a good gift because you couldn't. Regardless of the insults, the person giving it to you obviously didn't think about if you could cope with the pressures of a puppy.
And this time, I'm not generalising, I'm being specific based on your responses on this thread only.
There where six puppies dumped in a box outside a house, 6 weeks old, to young to actually leave the mother.
My dad picked one up as he thought it would be a good present for me, and is sympathetic to puppies being abandoned, like I am. So no, it was a lovely thought, and my friend agreed it would be great to have around for company.
I didn't 'give it up' I gave it to someone, who is a huge lover of animals, free to a loving, caring home where she wouldn't be abandoned. Why? Cos I felt it was a lot of pressure with the situation I'm in, to be having sleepless nights, cuddling the puppy cos it missed it's mother.
So I didn't ABANDON it, and I didn't give it up. You've all taken this WAY out of proportion.
It was a bad present. Not given by a bad person, or given to a bad person. Just a bad present. Proof of that is that it took days/minutes for you to realise that you aren't ready to look after a dog - anyone who knew you well would already have known that really.
You acted well in giving it up quickly rather than for both to get attached or for you to abandon it.
Which is pretty much what Suzy has said. I can't see anything rude or abusive in anything which Suzy has commented on here.
It would have been a good present if... but the if doesn't apply here. So by your own definition it wasn't a good present at this time. Maybe in the future it would be.
The fact is that dogs are often given for Xmas and then abandoned. Therefore, considering you are dealing with a living animal, it's pretty important to make sure you are giving it to a home that can cope. In this case, as you freely admit, you can't. Therefore, not a good present, surely?
Well done for acting more responsibly than your Dad did, however much thought he might have put into it.
In related news, get over yourself. Suzy has been supportive, not judgmental FFS.
For the record. No-one has said that you abandoned it. However, you have said that you gave it to someone else. Isn't that "giving it up"?
If youd have said my dad foiund a litter of abandoned puppies and asked me if i wanted one but i couldnt but found it a lovely home, it would have made a lot more sense. Im curious to why you gave a completely different sstory to begin with. its hardly a long story.
Nobody said you abandoned the dog; your second statement is semantics; you've taken everything that Suzy said out of proportion.
Story never did change, my darling.
Erm...
*confused old man*
Anything specific or are you still just having a bitchfest?
Specific things...
Read back through the thread, then ask yourself the same question maybe?
Supportive, understanding comments praising your actions mainly. Bitching, moaning and abuse coming from you. Shame really.
You did the right thing, as has been said. Shame your Dad hadn't put as much thought into it but can understand the actions having saved a few cats (and our dog) in the past. But that was because we knew we could look after them.
Excellent. Always better to be annoyed at specifics than generalisms. Makes for easier targeting of the weaponry I find.