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No Self Esteem Teen
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Hi guys, I'm Russian Roulette
I'm female and a young woman/teen with a sexual/self esteem problem...
At my age it's completely normal to have sex and enjoy doing it, but the problem is that I'm way too shy. Every person has things they dislike about their body and i am no different... I'm rather happy with the way I look, I don't mind bikinis or swimsuits. But i do find it uncomfortable when I'm completely naked. "/
For me, sex relaxes me and so I loose control of all my walls and senses and that leaves me in a very vulnerable place which I don't like. And to add physical vulnerability to that makes me very nervous.
I don't think there is much anyone can do, but any advice would be really helpfull.
Thanks :thumb:
I'm female and a young woman/teen with a sexual/self esteem problem...
At my age it's completely normal to have sex and enjoy doing it, but the problem is that I'm way too shy. Every person has things they dislike about their body and i am no different... I'm rather happy with the way I look, I don't mind bikinis or swimsuits. But i do find it uncomfortable when I'm completely naked. "/
For me, sex relaxes me and so I loose control of all my walls and senses and that leaves me in a very vulnerable place which I don't like. And to add physical vulnerability to that makes me very nervous.
I don't think there is much anyone can do, but any advice would be really helpfull.
Thanks :thumb:
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Or how about building your esteem when it comes to your naked body? Do you think that might help?
Nice to meet you, Reena. xx
I do use other relaxation techniques, i've done meditation for years and ballet. I would like to build my self esteem, i just don't know how to do it xx
Then I might have some info that could be helpful to you.
At the careers center when I was 17, they put me on a paid course. I couldn't go through with it, I could only manage the induction hour, then I quit. I told them about my lack of confidence, about being shy and scared around strangers, and they told me about a part of the course that I could benefit from. It was called, Breakthrough to Excellence. (Not sure if they still do it) They sent me on an unpaid, more detailed version of it, and covered all my travel costs. It was terrifying to begin with, but was so worth it. I gained a lot of self esteem and wouldn't be where I am today if I had said no.
I would recommend it to anyone. Do you think something like this could help? xx