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Help - How do you finger a girl?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Hi everyone, I'm new to The Site.

My problem is (and feel free to laugh, I wouldn't blame you) I'm nearly 18 and I've never fingered a girl before. All of my friends tell me about how much they love bringing their partners to orgasm etc but I've never even seen a girl's vagina before.
I've been seeing my current girlfriend now for nearly 2 months and we're very much in love, we don't wanna rush into things and haven't slept together yet but she keeps really pressurising me to finger her and she's expecting it to be good <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; How can I tell her I haven't got a clue what to do? I'm afraid she'll just laugh at me, and I don't wanna lose her!
I know about clitorises and G-Spots and things but I just don't know what to do exactly, and be certain I'll give her an orgasm. I don't want to ask her to tell me what she likes or "show me" at first because I want to really pleasure her the first time without any help, I just wanna keep her happy and think I'm a good lover. I'm not exactly inexperienced, I've done "things" with other ladies before but never brought one to orgasm before!!
My girlfriend says she loves me and I love her too, but all she keeps saying to me recently is about how now she's off her period I can finger her as much as I want and make her moan the place down etc <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; I'm so nervous! Whenever she says this I just try to act all confident and laugh and say yeah sure we can do that, when in actual fact I'm terrified of making a complete prat of myself.
It doesn't help when she tells me that ex-boyfriends have done this to her and she really enjoyed it and she fantasises about me doing this to her every night. But she says I'm the first person she's ever truly loved and she wants us to do this together! I just know she's gonna dump me when she sees me fumbling around down her knickers like some complete clueless idiot, barely tickling her <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;

So if any girls on here (or particulary confident, experienced fellas!) can gimme some good advice, I'll be ETERNALLY grateful, and you might just spare my blushes!

Thanks guys. I look forward to becoming a regular poster here!

"Zippy"

PS - Sorry about the essay, hope it helps you to understand just how worried I am about this!

Comments

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Not a girl im afraid but here are some threads about the subject, hope they hepl in some way <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
    http://www.thesite.org/ubb/Forum1/HTML/000546.html http://www.thesite.org/ubb/Forum1/HTML/000545.html http://www.thesite.org/ubb/Forum1/HTML/000522.html



    "Is sex dirty? Only if its done right."
    - Woody Allen
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Or even help in some way

    <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

    "Is sex dirty? Only if its done right."
    - Woody Allen
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thanks for your help City mate <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; , I'll check them out
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Don't worry too much!!
    When I'm wt a guy I really care about, I don't really mind if he's not fantastic at first! Just make sure you're nails are short!! my ex couldn't be bothered cutting his, and you can imagine the result!!

    Neway, stroke around the clit before you put your fingers inside, it's better if she's a bit wet before you put a finger inside. And don't try to put more than one finger in until she's relaxed, cos it'll hurt if you force it!
    it's good if you push your finger in and out, slowly is nice at first, get some speed when she's relaxed a bit more. she'll probably tell you when she wants you to go faster. Don't worry about trying to push your finger in as far as it will go (unless she asks you to) cos generally the more sensitive part is round the entrance.
    Then with your g/f lying on her back, press slightly upward (toward her stomach) and keep contact with the wall of the vagina.
    This should feel REALLY good <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thanks ever so much for your help babe - MUCH appreciated <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    Well I'm still a bit nervous but feeling a lot better now and looking forward to doing it! And I learned summing else today - It's good to talk (In the words of the great Bob Hoskins hehe <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif">)
    This was really starting to bug me so today I decided to talk to my girl about my fears and guess what - She was DELIGHTED!! She said the thought of me doing anything with anyone else made her feel sick with jealousy and even better - that she can't wait to help me finger her <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
    Moral of the story - Communication is a vital part of relationships!

    Catch ya later guys
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    That is soooooo cool! I am dead proud of you for finding the courage to discuss your worries with your girlie! Take it easy, and see how it pans out and I'm sure it will work out just fine!!
    Good luck to ya,
    Luv,
    Daisy.

    People who don't like Cats were probably Mice in an earlier life!!!!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ok when its the first time you have fingered her then just use one finger, and keep pulling up towards her stomach.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hendrix can you not pull up old topics....
    Cheers mate!!! check the dates.... coz if not we all end up reading the same over and over again!!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I just now read what that one person wrote so i didnt know if ne one said it. Sorry man
  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    keep pulling towards her stomach?! god. sounds hella painful. not how i like to be fingered i have to say!!!

    but yeah the old topic thing is a bit of a pain...

    Never put off to tomorrow what you can avoid altogether.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well, of course you'll learn with time how to do it, but just in case you feel adventurous, why not give her a little tongue down there. My g/f wont even consider a finger after I did that to her, and it's a sure way to give her the big O. She'll most definately like it more too (just watch out for your teeth, they can hurt)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    FFS hendrix, use ur head. it's dead. keep it dead!

    Look into these tired eyes. See something you might recognise.
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