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can we live without them?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
:confused:ive naffed up many of the relationships ive had, including family! i get so hurt! its so painful! takes me ages to trust people and it seems to be that when i get to that point of trusting, i get rejected and deverstated! i now push people away in fear of being in pain again!! life seems simplar but it can be awfully lonely!:confused:

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Ever thought of getting some help with this?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yeah!! But i don't know where to start to find help with it! its so difficult to find someone to trust!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    If you're in Hampshire in the UK, Relate offer counselling re all kind of relationship issues, including family matters. They have a branch finder on their website.

    http://www.relate.org.uk/young-people-counselling/index.html

    Don't be put off by the mention of costs, if you have no income, or are on a low income, they will work something out with you.

    Jed
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    thankyou! is it ok to use even if im not really counted as a young person anymore?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    thankyou! is it ok to use even if im not really counted as a young person anymore?

    If it's an issue involving family and personal relationships then should be ok regardless of age.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Its a tough situation because nobody wants to get hurt, so putting up a barrier and not trusting easily is a natural defence. There is nothing worse than thinking you can trust someone and finding out the hard way you cant, we've all experienced it. I dont know what people have done to you, or how serious it was.. but i guess you have to ask yourself if you are really giving them a chance? I used to be the exact same, but i realised i judged their actions and shut them off completely before even giving them a chance.
    I learnt that every situation is completely based on context and that individual, not off of another horrible experience with someone completely different. If that makes sense?
    Its a horrible situation, and opening up again when you could potentially be hurt is hard and i agree life would be so much simpler... but its not how you should have to live because of others actions.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    :confused:ive naffed up many of the relationships ive had, including family! i get so hurt! its so painful! takes me ages to trust people and it seems to be that when i get to that point of trusting, i get rejected and deverstated! i now push people away in fear of being in pain again!! life seems simplar but it can be awfully lonely!:confused:

    If you don't feel comfortable going in to details then I understand but is there anything you can identify in your/their behaviour that seems to lead to this feeling of rejection?
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