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Food issues within a (possible) relationship
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I'm currently seeing a guy who has quite a few problems with food. He has had a lot of traumatic experiences with food as a child and since and finds it very difficult eating certain types of food and having other people cook for him. For me, food is a very important part of life. When I can, I really enjoy cooking food for other people and sharing a meal. Because I have allergies and because of his issues with food it is very difficult to find foods we can enjoy together. He sees this as a huge problem (because I don't like eating separate meals at dinner time - although I'm not totally adverse to it) which he think might lead to the relationship not working out. He is dealing with issues and I'm trying to be as accepting as I can, but I personally don't see it as a huge issue.
Any advice?
Any advice?
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I enjoy food and cooking too, but my boyfriend is an extremely picky eater (eats mostly processed foods which I avoid). I don't know where he gets this from as his mum and family eat 'normally'. He knows his eating habits aren't particularly healthy, but he's not actively doing anything to broaden his taste buds, so I leave him to it. We rarely eat meals together, partly because of his pickyness and also because he finishes work late on a night. I leave him to sort himself out and I largely cook for myself and friends, so don't miss out on eating nice healthy food.
This is the mindset that is the surefire doom of a relationship, since now you are not overlooking and solving issues, but are seeking them and construe them as impossible to overcome to validate your image of the situation.