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What do parents think of bfs/gfs staying the night?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Just wondering. My mum's offered to let my bf sleep on the sofa if he needs to, cos he lives quite far away and he can't always get a train home. But my bf's parents have said they don't mind me sleeping in his room with him. I suppose that's just the difference between parents of boys and girls, but what do other people's parents think?

Mags
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

    Hiya <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;
    Yeah know what you mean! Too start with my boyf slept in my room and i slept on thr couch (DRAG) then when he moved away she changed her mind, i got to in the room with him <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt; his mum didnt let us till i was 16 tho! Suppose it depends on the parents!
    Love Miss_Kxxxx

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    at mums house i share my bed wiv the bf but i dont think my dad would let us do the same. his parents are funny bout us sleepin in the same bed although the know we r havin sex <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt; parents are strange!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    When Ive stayed at my g/f's (she lives in Newcastle) her parents have let me stay in her room with her.... but when shes down here my parents have her stay in my sisters room on the spare bed... ok prob as me & my brother share rooms so thats understandable <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    you live in cornwall and she lives in newcastle. wow. thats about as far away as you can get.

    my boyf always stays round my house, and he sleeps with me, and when we go round his house we sleep together too. which is cool, but i think my mum was a bit funee about it @ first.

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It always works like that, girls can sleep at the blokes but blokes don't tend to sleep at the girls. I remember my mum saying that my bro's girlfriend couldn't sleep round if i was in the house (i was only little and he's a 8 years older)
    But i'd never have a bloke stay at mine mainyl because my rooms next door to my parents..........embarrasement and the fact both my parents check inone me every morning, when they get in from work. My god what a sight!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well my g/f's 'rents never had a problem with me sleeping on their living room floor with her, but at my house it always had to be seperate rooms. Recently we have to have seperate rooms at both houses because her mom deemed it "unfair" to have 2 different rules. I think this is all pretty shit but then again I suppose we're lucky to be allowed to sleep at all.

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    My bfs Mum doesn't care 'as long as we're careful' LOL. Although my bf doesn't have a double bed so we either squeeze in2 his single or i have his bed & he sleeps on a mattress on the floor. (Depends how we feel <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif">)

    Now my parents i don't get.

    They won't let my bf sleep in the same room as me let alone the same bed when he's @ mine but in the summer hols they let me go away 2 Greece wit him on my own & i've been away 4 'long w/ends' wit him & they know we've slept in the same bed then!?!?!

    So confusing! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/confused.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    My parents will let my boyfriend sleep in our spare room if he needs to cos he lives quite far away but i'm not allowed to stay at his for the night. Understandable i think seeing as he's 20 and i'm 15!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    The first two times I stayed over at my boyfriend's house, I had to sleep on a zedbed in his sister's room. After my boyfriend had a huge row with his mum, I was allowed to sleep in his room and have done since then.

    As for my parents, "not until after i'm married" they say!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Fab_UKgirlie:

    Now my parents i don't get.

    They won't let my bf sleep in the same room as me let alone the same bed when he's @ mine but in the summer hols they let me go away 2 Greece wit him on my own & i've been away 4 'long w/ends' wit him & they know we've slept in the same bed then!?!?!

    So confusing!

    My parents are exactly the same. My Sister came down to see us the other week with her boyfriend who she lives with and I offerd them my double bed and said I would sleep in the spare room. But my Parents were having none of it. They live together for god sake!! Basically its because its under their roof and so they won't allow it.

    I've just started going out with this guy and I said that I wanted to stay round his house and my parents cant say no because Im 23. But my Dad was like I dont want you getting a reputation for sleeping around. Im like HELLO I don't have to stay round the guys house to have sex we're doing that anyway! My parents are so old fashioned it can be a real pain in the arse.

    Its like the other day we were having this conversation and my Mum and Dad basically said that if I became pregnant and I wasn't married they would disown (sp) me!! Cheers then!!

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ive been stayin over in my fellas for about nearly 2 months. always tel my rents im stayin in a mates house tho. i wudnt ask cud he saty here tho, especially cause i share a room wit my sis. id love to be able to stay in his tho, cause hes not livin wit his rents cause he moved away 4 college. they let kme stay wit him on tues cause it was his b.day so he was avin a party. they dont know we r havin sex tho.

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    well me bf lives in sheffield and i live in blackpool and he came and stayed at ours a few wks back and me mum n dad made him stay on sofa but i stayed at his night b4 last and his rents let us both sleep in his room,lol and his mum turned round and said if u get up to owt then make sure u use summat. man that was embarrassin,lol...
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hehe... i like this topic!!! my boyf came over and my parents thought he'd stay in the spare room... double bed...hehe! and i'd stay in my room...but i didnt and i went into his once my parents went to bed...they must have known coz they commented on how loud we talked... TALKED!!!! hehe, uhem!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    just wanted to add that my mum said she didn't care as long as i was happy! hoe sweet is that?!?! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

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    I wonder who she is
    Sometimes I think I know her
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i HAV NEVA HAD NE PROBS WIV MY BOYF SLEEPIN IN MY BED. HES 21 AND IM 19 AND WE'VE BEEN 2GETHER 4 THREE YEARS. WEN WE HAD BEEN 2GETHER 4 BOUT 5 MONTHS, JUST AFTER MY 16TH B-DAY, WE DECIDED 2 HAV SEX. HE WAS LIVIN WIV SUM M8S AFTER A ROW WIV HIS PARENTS AND SO WE DECIDED TO HAV SEX AT MY PLACE. I SAT DOWN 1 NITE AND TLKD 2 MY MUM (MY DAD DOESNT LIV WIV ME). I TOLD HER THAT I FELT READY 4 SEX AND WOT DID SHE THINK? SHE SAID IT WAS MY DECISION AND SHE WASNT GONNA INTERFERE WIV THAT. I THAN SAID COS OF *****'S (I AINT TELLIN U HIS REAL NAME) HOUSIN SITCH COULD HE STAY AT OURS. SHE SAID YES, WE COULD BOTH SHARE THE SPARE ROOM COS IT HAD A DOUBLE BED. SHE EVEN BOUGHT THE CONDOMS AND EVRYTHIN! SHES BEEN REALLY HELPFUL AND I AM PREGNANT NOW AND EVEN WEN ME AND ***** DECIDED 2 HAV A BABY I TLKD IT OVER WIV MY MUM 1ST. NOW WE R ALL LIVIN UNDER 1 ROOF AND THE BABY WIL LIV WITH US 2 IF NEEDS B. ME AND ***** R LOOKIN 4 A HOUSE, AND MUM'S HELPIN WIV DAT 2. I REALY APPRECIATE HER HELP, SO I SAY IF U GOT A PROBLEM OR A QUESTION OR U FEEL SOMETHIN'S WRONG OR U WANT URE PARTNER 2 SLEEP AT URE HOUSE THEN SPK 2 URE MUM OR BOYZ 2 URE DAD COZ THEY R REALY HELPFUL IF U LET EM B. GOOD LUCK! LOVE 2 U ALL, BOBBI. XXXXXX
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    But isnt it just sooooo annoying that your rents permantly think that if u stay the night ur obviuosly going to end up having sex!grr.
    I asked my rents last week if i could stay round me boyfs house and they said i could as long as they knew if i would be sleepin in the spare room/couch etc and my dad said maybe he would phone up his rents (his rents are cool and we get along really well and dont mind me stayin over at all)just to check but i didnt know if he was jokin or being serious so i decided not to stay over in the end for fear of the embarrassment of my dad checkin up on me ;-)
    I understand them wantin to make sure and i guess they were pretty reasonable about it, but its soooo annoying!
    they also said i mite be too young although and wait till im older (pref 18) but seeing as ill be 18 in about 6 weeks that kinda sucks coz im not going to change or become a totally different person overnite on my 18th bday if u get me drift although they did say yes in the end.
    am i too young?
    what do u guys think?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hey antigravity. why dont u tell ya folks what u said on here. i mean, that stuff bout u not gonna change over nite just cos u had sex. it makes sense to talk about it. i did and i am so happy, oh by the way i am ENGAGED yay! i am on top of the world, somebody grab the string and pull me back down! so you see a lot can come from just talkin about things. tell ure folks how u feel and see wot happens. let me know, eh?
    bobbi xxxxx
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well I wouldn't know much about having my g/f over to stay round mine and what my parents would think as for one their split up and I live with my fathers parents how won't let my mates stay over let alone my g/f mainly because they don't like my friends at all... to immature apperently... yes... and they are a bad influence yeah right whatever. And then i get a goddamn lecture...for the nth time. ahh well can't win em all.
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