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Move on or stay?
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I've been in this relationship for nearly seven months . he is blind and has fits his mum is over protective. Very protective! So we don't go out the house because i stay at his. We toy fight because we do get bored and my boyfriend Jamie had a few bruises and his mum seen them. Then we had tea and she pulled up his top and said "whos put these bruises on you" so i said "i done it" she said "i don't wanna see bruises like that on my son i gave birth to him twenty five years ago" So because there was tention i went ome to let the dust settle. A week after Jamie had another chat with his mam and said i'm no longer welcome. She also said he can do alot better than me. He should try and find some1 else. I'm a cheeky mare. His dad said if we had kids it would mess his life up. And if we went out i would leave him on his own. Then on Tdayy she text me and said we can put everything behind us and i can come back dwn. I luv him but all tht stuff was so hurtfull i dnt know weather to dump him or move on?? Pls help me
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Its understandable shes so protective of him if hes blind, so maybe you two need to sit down and talk about you being together. Its probably not you she has a problem with but with letting her son go.
A lot of people would find my approach fairly yellowbellied and avoiding conflicts at all cost (which is fair), but I've found in a lot of cases, if you can 'keep people happy', even the most unbearable personalities can be dealt with and manoeuvred around.
Agree with this almost entirely. At the end of the day, you are in a relationship with him, not his parents, they are just a consequence of the relationship and need to be kept sweet. How sad would it be if you left your bf who you love because you don't get on with his parents?
I take a similiar attitude to work, there are people I don't like but I don't go out of my way to cause trouble with them because conflict is counter productive and doesn't do anyone any good. I deal with them the best i can and get on with it.
Would also agree that you need some time alone together
Agreed. It's probably because she doesn't like the thought of him growing up, etc.
You need to speak to her woman to woman and explain that you care about her son and that you respect her position as his mother, but she also has to trust that you will look after her son. I know that most blind people are perfectly capable of looking after themselves but this woman has clearnly not loosened the apron strings and has left your boyfriend in the position that he is is not as independant as he should be.
It's all about the family coming to terms with change, so you must be understanding. I think to dump your boyfriend woul be a mistake as he is obviously in the middle of all this and isn't at fault.