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learning difficulties, tiredness, placement

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
I know I made a thread recently and know I really do need to chill out and stop worrying and what is annoying is I kinda know what I have to do but I dont know how to break it down and which to tackle first? I am feeling overwhelmed even though this situation is hardly complex :confused:

I start my placement at a special school for children with disabilities and complex needs. Bricking it. I am expecting to take a few knocks to my self-esteem along the way which I'm really not looking forward to. I know eventually I will be expected to co-ordinate/run a group for parents but can already imagine the negativity and ageism I'm gonna receive. So going into a placement tomorrow to 'help people' including having some knowledge about self-esteem when I can barely help myself and am at -1 self esteem myself. Am I stupid

Next issue is the university expect me to work 5 days a week there to get my 100 days of placement needed to progress onto the next year. But this is partly the fault of the university because they took forever in arranging a placement (most of the people on my course started their placement in October and got a gradual set out 2 day a week head start at their placement). Should I kick up a stink? This will leave me with no study time or time needed with a private tutor to get upto speed on a course I already feel like I am failing and we have just been given an assignment I understand commitment is needed but I know I will probably fry what little brain I have and this doesnt leave me with much study time. Including how the hell am I going to arrange to see someone for private tuition (who specialises in dyslexia and dyspraxia) when I dont have any days free. I dont want to make a big deal out of it but I am unsure who to go to first.
The actual placement tomorrow?
The woman I am supposed to be arranging the tuition with?
A placement co-ordinator?
Or my placement supervisor whom I havent met yet and I am told they are hardly the most sensitive of people.

To add more on. I made a fuss about how shit they were about organising a placement and how it has already put added pressure on my individually because of my learning difficulties and having to get upto speed with everyone on my course who are already more experienced than I am. So now they give me a placement and I am unhappy.
I realise I need to calm down as I havent even started my placement but I am so STRESSED.

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Ok first off, this is a really common problem with placements, it seems more people get things messed up than it goes smoothly for :rolleyes: I would say though that being aware of your situation the university should have handled it better, how about putting a short complaint together in writing?

    If the placement starts tomorrow I would suggest go there, be punctual, be attentive and just take day one as it comes. How about calling the tutor, explaining the situation and asking them for advise? they may have come across this kind of situation before.

    I would also say to call you placement co-ordinator, it's difficult with your placement being in a school as I would say you could request to extend the placement into July by working shorter weeks. It'll get sorted but you need to take care of yourself and make sure you're ready for the day, I know this is obvious but avoid complaining to your placement and try getting it sorted out first.

    Good luck, now take your own advice and relax!

    dp :heart:
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    thanks. :)

    okay so i emailed my dyslexia advisor/tutor at the university and forwarded it to my placement supervisor who i havent met yet. but i am told he is a bit.. mehh. i guess i shouldnt judge him though. i think my dyslexia advisor will definitely be helpful but it makes me feel better that you mentioned a complaint because i think i feel a bit uncomfortable, moaning when i havent got a placement and now moaning when i do. it seems a bit silly.

    i sent this email just now:
    Hello,

    I'm sorry for the duplicate email but I was unsure who I should really be
    emailing. I now have a placement at Whitfield and Aspen School in Dover
    that I will be starting tomorrow however I'm a little concerned as because
    I have started my placement late, in order to meet the required 100 days
    as I understand it, I will have to be at my placement 5 days a week.

    I don't feel this is managable for me especially as a student with
    learning difficulties as I have been given an assignment as well as my
    extended research project to be getting on with. I realise that we have
    study days off to attend university (Thursdays and Fridays) but after this
    week there really aren't many to attend. I am also worried about how I
    will fit in my dyslexia tuition that is part of my DSA that I am currently
    trying to organise.

    I would appreciate some feedback perhaps in arranging to time off to study
    and meeting the needs of the placement.

    Thanks

    i have a feeling my placement supervisor will suggest it's unfortunate but i will just have to put the time in. if he does then i think im right to complain.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hey

    It is common to feel completely out of your depth with placements looming etc.
    First of all take a deep breath and think it through, remember it is your course and your life and you only get out what you put in.

    If you think they are expecting too much of you then don;t be afriad to tell them so. How important is it to you that you complete this year on time? Could you do the year over two years to relieve the pressure or ask them if tehy cna extend the placement at teh end so you cna have some time to catch up with yourself.

    Is there a tutor at all that you know well enough to speak frankly with? They might not have the right title but if you can ask their advice they may well be able to point you in the right direction.

    Good luck and keep smiling - remember teh training bit is the hardest!

    :-)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hi Clementine,

    You've had some good advice here already but I just wanted to pick up on something else you said: "So going into a placement tomorrow to 'help people' including having some knowledge about self-esteem when I can barely help myself and am at -1 self esteem myself"

    I just wanted to mention that you may actually be surprised at how well you cope with this, and are actually able to provide the help and guidance to someone else despite not feeling capable to implement such advice yourself. You may be able to take an objective outsider viewpoint on someone else's problems and give them good advice. I often see you give good advice on here, i'm sure. This may in turn actually help you help yourself.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    How did your first day go Clementine? Did you go to your placement? :)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    thanks for the responses guys :)

    however today makes me want to leave the course altogether. my email had no response from my mysterious placement supervisor (surprise surprise) but i had a response from my dyslexia advisor at the university who suggested finding a private tutor closer to my placement and gave me a link on..wait for it... time management. so no help there. the only redeeming quality is that she wanted me to tell her in more detail but really not expecting much there.

    sent this email to the lady who sorts out the placements today. i think it's fair to let the dept know i'm not v happy. this is what i said:
    Dear ...,

    Thank you for your email. I have now started my placement and am really
    enjoying it. I realise that because I have started my placement later
    than others and that the school academic year is quite limiting that I
    would probably need to attend the placement 5 days a week.

    However on the timetable, for the students that started their placement
    earlier Mondays have been factored in as a day off from placement to
    study. I am quite concerned because we have deadlines approaching and
    feel that my learning difficulties have not been taken into account.

    I am trying to arrange private tuition with a specialist tutor that my DSA
    has allocated provisions for but am finding it difficult with the lack of
    time I now have.

    I understand that a placement needs commitment and I am motivated but I
    now feel that I am at a greater disadvantage just as the course is
    becoming more demanding than my peers who have no learning difficulties
    and are able to be more flexible with regards to their placement and study
    time.

    I would really appreciate any feedback and advice you could offer. I have
    emailed my placement supervisor but am yet to receive a response.

    Thanks


    If sends a patronising email or suggests I am making excuses then I might just leave. Had a look at the disability discrimination act for universities today and if i have to quote it at a Social Work dept than really what is the point?

    according to it, 'continually be anticipating the needs of disabled people' as well as 'make reasonable adjustments' so that it isn't detrimental to my study.

    getting that email from the dyslexia woman put me on a real downer. if i couldnt manage my time effectively i wouldnt have completed my first degree. i dont think people realise how much my learning difficulties are affecting me right now. tempted to get another assessment to see if they have got any worse because i feel like they have.

    nikilala- unfortunately i cant extend this placement because it's in a school and so needs to finish in july. i think that's why theres added pressure on me to be in the placement as much as poss and get my 100 days completed. and im not sure if it's possible to extend it but i dont think i'd be too happy because it isnt my fault they took 3 months to secure me a placement when the majority of the students started in october.

    queenmab- thanks that is nice of you to say. despite my typos i dont think i'm as articulate 'offline' which really holds me back.

    fostress- thanks too, i enjoyed it. the children were lovely and so is the staff. i do feel it's obvious to everyone by now that i have learning difficulties though, every clumsy thing i do screams it. i am embarassed despite the majority of children there have SEN too much, much, much more severe. i'm just frustrated at myself and my limitations right now
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Don't be so quick to knock the time management link.

    By the sounds of it your placement is in a school - so assuming it's roughly school hours that should still give you a fair number of hours in the week to play with if it's possible to find a way of making them work. It might take a more creative approach to time management than you're used to but it's not necessarily going to be impossible.

    It's good that you've got in touch with the tutors, but by the sounds of it you've got in mind the solution that you want and you're not willing to consider any others. Much as it's not your fault that you've started your placement late, an MA isn't about entitlement it's about ability and experience so you and the department need to work together to find a way that you can reach that level if you're going to get your MA.

    If it's really not working, it might be worth seeing if you can do the course part time to give you more time to study and spread your placement out over two years. A reasonable adjustment for your disability might be that they let you do this based on the fees you've already paid rather than paying another years fees.

    Really glad to hear your placement is going well now you've started it though. Don't forget that side of things, and if the placement is working and you're enjoying it then that's a good sign that it's worth perservering with the course.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    thanks for your reply. i hate the word entitlement but the university are aware of my learning difficulties and so far haven't been that supportive at all which is a shame.

    the woman who deals with placements has forwarded my email to the head of the social work department. i'd just like a conversation with someone about what is expected of me now that i have started my placement so late and what support is available.

    i managed to grab 5 minutes with my personal tutor today who was just leaving. she said that my learning needs need to be looked at and 5 days a week is too much to do especially with the amount of work and reading i need to do which sounds promising. she wouldn't be able to see me though until the week after next so i said i'd email her to fully describe the situation than organise when to ring. the sooner the better really.

    i am considering going part time too. i think i've pretty much shot myself in the foot from the start of the course being overly optimistic, not thinking i needed extra tuition for my dyslexia and now everything feels like too much. i told my tutor this so she is aware now. no idea how the funding would work out though.

    fingers crossed
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