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Ex boyfriend coming back to the UK. Not sure how to feel.
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Earlier this week I found out that my ex (split up in 2009) is planning to return to the UK in the new year for maybe a month. I'm not sure how I feel to be honest. I cant make my mind up, one minute I desperately want to see him and at other times I want to avoid him.
It was a fairly amicable break up though it sucked at the time. It was a mutual decision as we decided it would never work with me being in the UK and him being in America.
We have kept in touch over the last two years and been on good terms. I just think it will be really weird seeing him. Part of me does want to get back together but then I cant help but think its more about me being lonely rather than me actually wanting him back. I thought I'd moved on but now I don't know.
It was a fairly amicable break up though it sucked at the time. It was a mutual decision as we decided it would never work with me being in the UK and him being in America.
We have kept in touch over the last two years and been on good terms. I just think it will be really weird seeing him. Part of me does want to get back together but then I cant help but think its more about me being lonely rather than me actually wanting him back. I thought I'd moved on but now I don't know.
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/edit: derp. can't read. Just avoid him. Best not even meet up. (missed the he's back for a month part).
However I imagine us meeting will end up being an outing with several other friends rather than a one on one.
And you shouldn't. If I was in your position I would just tell him that under other circumstances you would love to meet up, but you are afraid you are not completely over him yet and fear it could rekindle things, which would hurt again once he moves away again.
Why excuses and lies, if you can just explain to him what the real problem is?
Still no problem, in my opinion.
Either see the friends without the guy, and if this is not possible, because you are all an old clique, just go together. You can talk to whoever you want without anyone thinking you are purposefully ignoring him. If I had obvious or uncertain feelings for a person and I want to get over said person a meeting with just us two is not a good idea, but in a group of people I can just talk to different people and not relate as much with the person in question. Coincidentally I've been in this situation just two weeks ago and I dreaded going. In the end it was no biggie.
Its not really a simple case of being able to see my friends without him. I don't get to meet up with them that often because they live to far away, especially now we all have proper jobs and many of them are in long term relationships. I don't think I'll get to see any of them until that meet up in March as they are all so busy.