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What do single people do?!

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
I'm recently single, and don't really know what to do with myself. Im thinking of taking up a sport, I used to road cycle but had to sell the bike because I was short on cash, but I did love it. I was thinking maybe archery or something. Suggestions would be great.
What do you guys do when you come out of a relationship?

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well what do you want/like?

    Do you wanna meet new people? Distract yourself to help heal? Get fit?

    I was single for years and mostly focused on the gym, lots of reading and socialising with friends.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    What do single people do?!

    That is one of the most genuinely sad questions I've heard asked.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    For most of the day they lie in the fetal position in their bed, and silently cry.

    Right, guys?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    StrubbleS wrote: »
    For most of the day they lie in the fetal position in their bed, and silently cry.

    Right, guys?

    I'm properly ambivalent about this one, dude. Part of me wants to do the incredulous piss-taking about someone who appears to have jettisoned their personality when they entered their last relationship; the other part of me is genuinely saddened that someone doesn't appear to understand how to function as a person when they're not in a relationship.

    Advice: You know the things you like? Do those.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'm properly ambivalent about this one, dude. Part of me wants to do the incredulous piss-taking about someone who appears to have jettisoned their personality when they entered their last relationship; the other part of me is genuinely saddened that someone doesn't appear to understand how to function as a person when they're not in a relationship.

    Advice: You know the things you like? Do those.

    It was actually meant as a self-deprecating humor. (the "right, guys?" should be the seeking of approval that not only I am doing this).

    yes, you are right tho, but I still think it's just think-tank to re-discover what you used to do and like instead of a soul crushing depression, because you are left alone and everything is pointless now.

    advice: meet friends. You will get the single life easier rolling again. Maybe you pick up hobbies and/or sports together (I know I hate doing things on my own).
  • *Holly**Holly* Moderator Deactivated Posts: 140 Settling in
    Hi Voltaire

    Coming out of a relationship is a massive life-adjustment and it’s totally normal to feel lost. Relationships are many things, but they’re mostly massively time-consuming. So when you find yourself single again, it’s initially hard to get used to all that extra time. Especially the extra alone time. Activities such as sitting on the sofa and watching a DVD can seem lovely and romantic when you’re with someone – but alone? Well...in time you’ll hopefully learn that it’s just as good.

    Sometimes the best way to adjust to single life is to think of it as a really positive thing. Think of the freedom you have now to do whatever you want, whenever you want, without having to consider someone first. It’s a time to be really selfish (although try not to hurt anyone in the process!).

    TheSite’s Mending a Broken Heart article has a really great video that should give you some ideas on how to fill your time. You’ve already mentioned cycling and archery which both sound like great ideas. If you’re low on cash, try checking out recycling websites such as Freecycle to see if you can find a bargain replacement bike. Try writing a list of all the things you love doing and then take the steps to make them happen – whether it’s joining an evening class, the gym, anything.

    Now’s also the time to reconnect with some friends. Try reading the Boost your social life article for some tips on how to pick up more mates.

    Break ups are really hard, so feel free to keep posting here if you need to let it all out. But, hopefully, you’ll be too busy creating your new life to have the time to ;)

    Big hugs

    Holly
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    StrubbleS wrote: »
    It was actually meant as a self-deprecating humor. (the "right, guys?" should be the seeking of approval that not only I am doing this).

    yes, you are right tho, but I still think it's just think-tank to re-discover what you used to do and like instead of a soul crushing depression, because you are left alone and everything is pointless now.

    advice: meet friends. You will get the single life easier rolling again. Maybe you pick up hobbies and/or sports together (I know I hate doing things on my own).

    Yeah pretty much. I'm not depressed, it was a good break up and I'm not sad. It's just that I've got loads of time now and wondering what people do with it. I'm not some mindless automaton, I'm very happy with myself actually, and a pretty confident person.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I play computer games, apply for jobs, and complain about being unemployed.

    If I had a job, I think it would be play computer games, and work. :thumb:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ShyBoy wrote: »
    I play computer games, apply for jobs, and complain about being unemployed.

    If I had a job, I think it would be play computer games, and work. :thumb:
    There you go a genuine comment.
    fuck it, I'm gunna shoot some people on the 360.
  • SkiveSkive No discipline. No morality. No respect. New ForestPosts: 15,269 Skive's The Limit
    Wank.
    Weekender Offender 
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    What did you do when you were single, before the relationship?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'm single and I usually do whatever takes my fancy.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    G-Raffe wrote: »
    What did you do when you were single, before the relationship?
    Skive wrote: »
    Wank.

    :thumb:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I usually just watch grey's anatomy obsessively and wish that my exgirlfriend would take me back.

    I mean, not.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    knit
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yanice. wrote: »
    i usually just watch grey's anatomy obsessively and wish that my exgirlfriend would take me back.

    :d
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    G-Raffe wrote: »
    What did you do when you were single, before the relationship?
    I really don't remember, but I was a university student living with friends so I doubt it's terribly applicable any more.
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