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telling someone (bf) about past depression etc
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Basically this has to be quick or I will be late for work.... woops. lol.
I met a guy a little while back, and he has now asked me to go out with him... thought that day wasn't coming... ha ha. I said yes
The thing is I really want to be open with him, as he seems to like me however i am... grumpy when ill, hyper, tired etc etc... it doesn't seem to matter. I want to tell him that in the past I have suffered with depression (which for the time being seems to have virtually disappeared). He has seen a scar which I dismissed with a reasonable excuse. How do I bring it up subtly? I don't plan on just blurting it out, more slipping it into a conversation. Has anyone ever had the same problem?
This will take serious balls! I've never done this before
I met a guy a little while back, and he has now asked me to go out with him... thought that day wasn't coming... ha ha. I said yes
The thing is I really want to be open with him, as he seems to like me however i am... grumpy when ill, hyper, tired etc etc... it doesn't seem to matter. I want to tell him that in the past I have suffered with depression (which for the time being seems to have virtually disappeared). He has seen a scar which I dismissed with a reasonable excuse. How do I bring it up subtly? I don't plan on just blurting it out, more slipping it into a conversation. Has anyone ever had the same problem?
This will take serious balls! I've never done this before
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How nice to hear how happy you are that this guy has asked you out
It seems like this is something you feel you need to tell him soon? A lot of the time perhaps it's about letting it come naturally and see whether it will come up while mentioning your past. But it's understandable you want to get it out the the way sooner rather than later - and be open with him.
You say he likes you in every mood - so why not tell him you appreciate that and that you feel very comfortable and open with him too and therefore you want to share this with him? Any way you choose to tell him, seems like he will be supportive either way. Let us know how you get on :yes:
I also generally feel the happiest I have in a long long time. I am scared just when things are going ok, it will all come crashing down again.
:yes: I agree. If you seem to be in recovery at the moment (and well done, you, for that) then you don't need to feel like you're hiding something by not mentioning it.