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Not sure how I feel about my best friend.
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I'm not sure if it's "love love" or not.
Like, she's definitely the one i care most about overall atm as I'm single n everything and we're amazingly close, i don't know if it's classed as normal or whatever but like we'd cuddle for hours and my head would be on her chest and my hands on/between her thighs and it sometimes feels a bit too weird, but don't take notice of it. And every time we sleep round each others houses we're always in the same bed spooning or cuddeling again. Also when we go to bed after talking on facebook or whatever we always say we love each other.
Sometimes feel like we're in a relationship lmao coz of these things. I dunno if it's normal ive nevre always had a best friend she's the first one and we've only been "best" friends for about a year now. And we've always been this close, even when she had a boyfriend but has just broken up now (not related to me, ive asked both parties)
Is it normal? It feels normal, not like we've done anything thats crossed any boundaries I don't think, just from what i've mentioned.
What do you guys reckon? x
Like, she's definitely the one i care most about overall atm as I'm single n everything and we're amazingly close, i don't know if it's classed as normal or whatever but like we'd cuddle for hours and my head would be on her chest and my hands on/between her thighs and it sometimes feels a bit too weird, but don't take notice of it. And every time we sleep round each others houses we're always in the same bed spooning or cuddeling again. Also when we go to bed after talking on facebook or whatever we always say we love each other.
Sometimes feel like we're in a relationship lmao coz of these things. I dunno if it's normal ive nevre always had a best friend she's the first one and we've only been "best" friends for about a year now. And we've always been this close, even when she had a boyfriend but has just broken up now (not related to me, ive asked both parties)
Is it normal? It feels normal, not like we've done anything thats crossed any boundaries I don't think, just from what i've mentioned.
What do you guys reckon? x
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im sort of in your position, as she suprised me by getting herself an 'open relationship' and now has both a girlfriend and boyfriend.
i was immensley jealous of this other girl, and now i am convincing myself that perhaps she could be chanigng in her feelings about me.
but considering you are so close, it shouldnt hurt to talk to her. i admitted my feelings, and we carried on as best friends, and she felt no awkwardness. dont be afraid xx
here to chat anytime you like
Like you say it does seem like a relationship but without sex or kissing. What needs to be thought about is whether you want more - and if you do whether you are willing to be honest with her about your feelings - and thus risk losing the friendship. Have a look at our article loving your best friend .
If you decide not to talk to her about this - or if she is not interested - it seems like perhaps the closeness could be used for you towards another girl? She seems to get everything she needs, without letting this be a committed relationship - while you might not be getting what you really want?
Think about whether this is something you are happy to continue with, as it is.
Good luck
Either you guys are really bad at communicating or she takes you for the comfort of physical nearness and the feeling of being wanted/appreciated, when she needs it without hassle but leads relationships with other people.
I'd understand cuddles in bed and that, but not random boob playing and stuff, it's like in between intimacy and friends with bennys.
yea, I know. But when the time comes for them to put out, they become squeamish. It's nice for some time, but it began to wear on me heavily, so I broke it off (after repeatedly trying to get her into a relationship).