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keeping it up

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
the first time i had sex we went for hours without cumming and i stayed hard the whole time( prob lasted that length cuz i was smoking and drinking), then the next time i stayed hard for the whole time. with my new girlfriend the first time we had sex a couple of times using condoms and i never had trouble keeping it up. i have had sex with her with out a condom now and had been able to stay hard but it seems that now im starting to fade because the last time i had sex with her i came relatively fast then we went for it again but i only had it up about halfway. the time before that after 2 times i started not having a full on erection. we had been having sex probably 4 times( me cumming) and other stuff but more towards her pleasure in one go then coming back to it later and i had no trouble. we usually see eachother every friday, sat, and sun but dont always have sex and i no longer masturbate so she is the only action im seeing.
the question is- is this "fine" or "regular"?

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Starting penatrative sex with a semi is never the best idea...

    Its a bit confusing, but are you saying that you've only had sex with this one girl? If so, and you've only had sex a handful of times then I'd relax, because thats pretty common when you're first getting into the swing of things. If it keeps happening, get it checked out, but if you warm up enough beforehand with foreplay and take your time (and keep a rhythm) then you should be fine.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Possibility.

    An erection problem is the inability to get or maintain an erection that is firm enough for a man to have satisfactory intercourse. You may be unable to get an erection at all, or you may lose the erection during intercourse before you are ready. If the condition persists, the medical term is erectile dysfunction.

    Considerations

    Erection problems are common in adult men. In fact, almost all men experience occasional difficulty getting or maintaining an erection. In many cases, it is a temporary condition that will go away with little or no treatment. In other cases, it can be an ongoing problem that can damage a man's self esteem and harm his relationship with his partner, and thus requires treatment.

    If you have difficulty having or keeping an erection more than 25% of the time, it is considered a problem.

    In the past, erection problems were thought to be "all in the man's mind." Men often were given unhelpful advice such as "don't worry" or "just relax and it will take care of itself." Today, doctors believe that when the problem is not temporary or does not go away on its own, physical factors are often the cause.

    One way to know if the cause is physical or psychologic is to determine if you are having nighttime erections. Normally, men have 3 to 5 erections per night, each lasting up to 30 minutes. Your doctor can explain a test to find out if you are having the normal number of nighttime erections.

    In most men, erection difficulties do not affect their sex drive.

    Premature ejaculation (when orgasm comes on too quickly) is not the same as impotence. Together with your partner, you should seek counseling for this problem, which is usually due to psychological factors.

    Male infertility is also quite different from impotence. A man who is unable to maintain an erection may be very capable of producing sperm that could fertilize an egg. An infertile man is usually able to maintain an erection, but he may be unable to father a child due to problems with sperm count or other factors.

    Causes

    An erection requires the interaction of your brain, nerves, hormones, and blood vessels. Anything that interferes with the normal process can lead to a problem.

    Common causes of erection problems include:

    • Diseases and conditions such as diabetes, high blood pressure, heart or thyroid conditions, poor blood flow, depression, or neurologic disorders (such as multiple sclerosis or Parkinson's disease)
    • Medications such as blood pressure medications (especially beta-blockers), heart medications (such as digoxin), some peptic ulcer medications, sleeping pills, and antidepressants
    • Nerve damage from prostate surgery
    • Nicotine, alcohol, or cocaine use
    • Poor communication with your partner
    • Repeated feelings of doubt and failure or negative communication that reinforce the erection problems
    • Spinal cord injury
    • Stress, fear, anxiety, or anger
    • Unrealistic sexual expectations, which make sex a task rather than a pleasure

    Unrealistic sexual expectations, which make sex a task rather than a pleasure
    Erection problems tend to become more common as you age, but they can affect men at any age and at any time in their lives. Physical causes are more common in older men, while psychological causes are more common in younger men.

    Low levels of testosterone rarely lead to erection problems, but may reduce a man's sex drive.

    Home Care

    For many men, lifestyle changes can help:
    • Cut down on smoking, alcohol, and illegal drugs.
    • Get plenty of rest and take time to relax.
    • Exercise and eat a healthy diet to maintain good circulation.
    • Use safe sex practices, which reduces fear of HIV and STDs.
    • Talk openly to your partner about sex and your relationship. If you are unable to do this, counseling can help.

    Couples who cannot talk to each other are likely to have problems with sexual intimacy. Men who have trouble communicating their feelings may find it difficult to share with their partner any anxieties about their sexual performance. In these circumstances, counseling can be very helpful for both you and your partner.

    When to Contact a Medical Professional

    Call your doctor if:
    • The problem does not go away with self-care measures -- effective treatments are available
    • The problem begins after an injury or prostate surgery
    • You have other symptoms like low back pain, abdominal pain, or change in urination

    If erection problems seem to be caused by a medication you are taking for an unrelated condition, consult your doctor. You may benefit from reducing the dose of the drug or changing to another drug that has the same result but not the same side effects. DO NOT change or stop taking any medications without first talking to your doctor.

    Talk to your health care provider if your erection problems are related to fear of recurring heart problems. Sexual intercourse is usually safe in these circumstances.

    Call your doctor immediately or go to an emergency room if medication for erection problems give you an unwanted erection that lasts more than 4 hours. Permanent impotence or other lasting damage to your penis may result from this condition.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Cut down on the smoking and drinking, it doesn't help. Brewer's droop is the more common term.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Call your doctor immediately or go to an emergency room if medication for erection problems give you an unwanted erection that lasts more than 4 hours. Permanent impotence or other lasting damage to your penis may result from this condition.

    I get this naturally? Is that an issue ;s
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Not a problem
    you have not damaged your penis.

    The warning about 4 hours applies solely to Viagra
    or similar medications taken by old men with heart
    problems.

    The 4 hours has a considerable safety margin even then.

    In natural erection blood is allowed to circulate in penile
    chambers, however these drugs often prevent this, so
    blood clotting a possibilty. hence the warning.
    A lot of ppl misunderstand this.
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