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foot fetish

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
My boyfriend has a pretty serious foot fetish as i recently found out. I had a feeling the first time we had sex because he was constantly caressing my feet, but since then he's opened up alot more and has admitted they really turn him on so as weird as it was, i let him suck my toes etc, but i noticed on the history page on my laptop that he has been googling dogs licking peoples toes and i saw pictures of feet all over his phone, and the other night while he was drunk, he asked me to shout at him so smell my stinky feet.
Its actually making me feel really weird and ever so slightly uncomfortable, is this normal???? and he also has told me that he would prefer it if i didn't wash my feet so he can smell them when i take my shoes off, now im a very hygenic person so the idea of not showering all day just so he can smell my feet is actually very disgusting for me, should i do this or not?

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    only if youre up for it, and can get into it, or else i can see the relationship not going far
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    **helen****helen** Deactivated Posts: 9,235 Supreme Poster
    robz_1109 wrote: »
    Its actually making me feel really weird and ever so slightly uncomfortable, is this normal????

    Hey, glad you've posted about this as it's the kind of situation that can spiral if you're unsure what to do.

    Festishes can be really bizarre and varied so what's normal to one person may not be to another and so on... Therefore, how you feel is really the main thing here rather than whether or not his fondness for feet is unusual.

    It's important that you feel able to be honest and open with your boyfriend about this, but if you do feel that what he's asking feels unfair, then there's some tips on dealing with sexual demands in our relationships section.

    Hope that helps and I'm sure others will have an opinion on this one. :)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think the only way any fetish can work within a relationship is if both patrners are into it or the non fetishist is prepared to accept he fetish as being a big part of who their partner is, as i understand it a fetish can become so powerful that the person can not even make love without the object of their desire being involved in some way, the other partner can be left feeling that the fetish object is more important than they are.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thanks for the replies. It is slightly weird for me as its not something im really in to, i dont really have a huge problem with the fetish its self, its more the fact he doesnt want me to wash my feet so he can smell them, thats the main thing thats turning me off. I am by nature a extremely hygenic person, 2 showers a day normally so the idea of not washing so he can smell them is slightly sickening for me. Im open to anything pretty much but not washing isn't something i like the thought of doing, i love him very much and i dont want to deny him something thaat would clearly please him, i just need to find a way of getting over the smelling aspect.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i think asking you to not wash is quite an unreasonable demand, because if he can smell it, then so will other people.

    It takes all sorts to make the world go round, and i do not have an issue with people having whatever fetish they like, but in order for a relationship to work, you need to complement each others sexual needs. If hes obsessed with your feet, but youre not the sort of person who gets off on having your feet worshipped, then whats in it for you?
    There will be people out there who will really get off on that.

    If it was just a little fetish and he just liked playing with your feet or seeing you in heels or sucking toes, then thats one thing, but his sounds like its more extreme than that. Not his fault, and youre not gonna change it, but he needs to maybe look at the fetish scene to find a partner rather than just the general population
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thats exactly my point, the toe sucking aspect i can get on board with, and even touching them is fine, but not washing would definately make me feel weird, even though i know he likes it, i would constantly be feeling very self conscious. Iv told him that i have a thing i would like him to do, if i meet him in the middle and do the foot fetish but as of yet, i havn't seen even a glimmer of him doing it, its not even unreasonable, nothing like his request, i just like a guy who wears black eyeliner as im really in to my rock music, so i agreed that i would do his, if he does mine. I think his fetish is actually the only thing he think of when we have sex now, he's always touching my feet and never does anything for me or asks if there is anything i would like, it was me who told him about the eyeliner. Am i wasting my time on this as i think this fetish is alot more serious than i realized. Iv never found porn or anything on the computer, just loads of foot worship sites and dogs licking peoples toes.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Am i wasting my time on this as i think this fetish is alot more serious than i realized. Iv never found porn or anything on the computer, just loads of foot worship sites and dogs licking peoples toes.

    Hey I have a foot fetish too. It's pretty serious I think so I probably know what he is like. You haven't found any "generic" porn because he is only turned on by feet like myself. With all my girlfriends and fuck buddies I have never had sex for myself. I did it for them the only thing I was after was their feet.

    I believe it is the same situation you are in. You should ask him if he even wants to have sex and if he isn't just doing it for you. If that is the case perhaps you two can work out some sort of agreement like I usually do. I apolagise to anyone that finds my post offensive it is my first and I only decided to post because I thought I might be able to shed some light on the foot worship subject.

    On a side note the black makeup thing sounds like a good "bargaining chip" that you can use to "trade" with. I do suggest getting your way first since you don't need much energy to have your feet worshipped but if he is tired the sex might not be as awesome as it could be. If the sex is not that good perhaps some positions favoring his fetish? eg. Having your feet on or near his face in some sort of contorted cowgirl. But that is just my opinion the best way to understand it is to ask him.

    As for the hygenic part I am also very hygenic (With a foot fetish wth?!?) I know hypocrytical or whatever. I think you should clean your feet as you normally would but setup some sort of arrangement. Like a weekend without washing your feet so he can have a fun sunday (Just an example) it's up to you two.

    Hope my rambling was useful in some way. :rolleyes:
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    **helen****helen** Deactivated Posts: 9,235 Supreme Poster
    Hey, nice reply - although always worth checking the date before you post as this was originally posted in July and so the OP might not be around anymore...

    Happy posting in other threads though, sounds like you've got a lot to contribute. :)
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