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should i say i know
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I think my friend is gay (male) I'm 90% sure he is I've been friends with him for years but he hasn't told me but there has been things I've pick up on that makes me think he is
I'm not bothered if he is I'm still going to be friends with him
Just don't know if I should ask him or just wait untill he feels he's ready to come out he's best friend has been giving out signs that he is so think he's told her
I'm not bothered if he is I'm still going to be friends with him
Just don't know if I should ask him or just wait untill he feels he's ready to come out he's best friend has been giving out signs that he is so think he's told her
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And then there is the 10% chance you are wrong, and that could be awkward!!!
Neddy makes a good point here:
Understanding your sexuality can be a very confusing time, so it's best to give your friend some time to work out how he's feeling for himself. Try not to worry if he doesn't discuss his feelings with you straight away he'll probably want to talk to you about them when he feels ready. For now it could be useful to get clued up on how you can help him if he does decide he is gay or bisexual. Have a look at the-site pages on sexuality and awareness:
http://www.thesite.org/sexandrelationships/sexuality/awareness/whenafriendcomesout .
This should help you to get to grips with how he's feeling.
Perhaps your friend is just exploring his feelings at the moment? Sexuality isn't always clear cut and can be hard to define, maybe have a look at the other pages in that section too for example 'The Wrong Label' and 'Being Bi-curious'.
http://www.thesite.org/sexandrelationships/sexuality/awareness/thewronglabel
http://www.thesite.org/sexandrelationships/sexuality/awareness/bicurious
Hope this helps and let us know how it goes
i can understand its not easy coming out and he should do it when he feels ready
and i dont want that awkwardness lol
If he is a good friend, you could just ask him, if you are really that interested. I can understand you, as I am a curious person myself and would just like to know, even tho it is completely irrelevant. Be prepared that you can really err in those things. I met the gayest dudes pulling the hottest chicks and the "manliest" guys on a party making out with each other.
I've got nothin against anyone who's gay it doesn't bother me but just think he's scared to tell me
Don't want there to been an awkwardness bout it
It's not for you to ask.
I knew what that video was before I even clicked it
Indeed. It's one awkward question too.
The reason why I think he wants to tell me cause some time last year he when we were in his best friends house having a drink he randomly said if I was gay would u still be my friend I said yes your my friend I asled why say that he just said he was joking about
so don't no if that counts as telling me if he is
I just wanna help him give him some support
I totally understand why you would want to ask, but you have to remember that there's a lot of shame and worry that goes with coming to terms with being 'different' and secrecy is a way of coming to terms with it in your own time.